Social Put friend on plane, died 12 hours later

[BloodyPoptart]

Boise airport before he left



RIP Cole K.
*** Any responses appreciated. It’s sherdog. Be honest. but this just happened and I’m just trying to think of every angle.

My friend Cole had off-and-on substance abuse issues, he once ODd in my living room when we’d been getting high with friends, he used IV, and I didn’t. Cole was 24. We got him help, he was fine. Months later he was cleaned up, working a good job. Cole was homeless in Boise, ID. His parents were good people but kicked him out.

4 months after getting a job and saving money for a place, he gets fired for showing up to work after drinking. They fired him and told his probation officer. He was on 1 year probation. That was Friday.

Sunday afternoon he calls me and says he’s in my living room and needs a ride to the greyhound, this is unusual, he never goes into my house without calling first. I show up, he tells me his woes, we go to his moms a mile away, he gets his things, we come back to my place. he sleeps on my couch for 4-5 hours, I’m thinking he’ll sleep it off. The whole time I rationalize the situation and tell him that even if he violates his probation he’s gonna do maybe a week in jail. He’s depressed and determined to leave. Tells me he has to leave. We watch the bob Dylan documentary No Direction Home and drink box wine, he says he’s never coming back to Boise.

***Cole had been smoking weed, doing shrooms, and get hitting the vein from Friday after he got fired to Saturday night before he showed up to my place on Sunday.


At this point he seems set on going and I tell him “sometimes more is lost by inaction than the wrong action”, I think it’s Confucian and might console him.
He says “yeah Confucius’ dead dog?”

He buys a ticket to New York on my phone, I drive him to the airport, he asks me to play “It’s alright Ma I’m only bleeding”.

He gets on a plane, 15 hours later he dies in Bushwick at his old spot, they find him in my blue Columbia in a cafe bathroom. His mom called me at 6pm today asking if I knew anything about the lead-up to his departure.

Is this my fault?

 

[Mike]

 

[Zer]

I'm blaming Bob Dylan here

 

[Ogata]

I was worried it was @Cole train but then you said plane and I was relieved.

 

[Bobby Boulders]

Is this DMF's alt account?

 

[Osculater]

I blame Confucius

 

[Zinger]

I was worried it was @Cole train but then you said plane and I was relieved.

Dude, same. <45>

 

[Fedorgasm]

I'm going to assume he was the one on the right.

And no, it's not your fault.

If there's one thing I've learned from having a lifelong addict sister, it's that some people can't be saved. Not by others anyway.

 

[BloodyPoptart]

I'm going to assume he was the one on the right.

And no, it's not your fault.

If there's one thing I've learned from having a lifelong addict sister, it's that some people can't be saved. Not by others anyway.

thank you

 

[Swella]

It's all your fault, and you should be a man and take the blame.

.......if true, my condolences.

 

[Anewt]

Not your fault mate. The best intentions can lead to the darkest roads. Sounds like he valued your friendship and you were there. You did the best ya could in the circumstances.

 

[suizuri]

Not your fault mate. The best intentions can lead to the darkest roads. Sounds like he valued your friendship and you were there. You did the best ya could in the circumstances.

Please pay close attention to this answer, TS.

It was not your fault.

 

[MarloStanfield]

On plane or in plane?

 

[Foots]

Drugs are bad, mmkay?

 

[Morning Star]

Sorry about your loss TS. Definitely not your fault. Your buddy chose his own path, you can't blame yourself.

 

[Fatality]

Did you have to get into the wine with him? Seems ill advised given his struggles.

 

[Mike]

I assumed this was a bit. But just on the off chance, no it's not. Survivor guilt is a real thing. All we can do is try to support those we care about, which you did.

We can't save them, and that hurts but it's ok. It's the price we pay for friendship.

 

[MusterX]

I was with you until you quoted Confucius to a drug addict who also knew you were quoting Confucius.

 

[dc007]

Where in Bushwick was he exactly?

 

[BloodyPoptart]

Where in Bushwick was he exactly?

I’ve never been to New York, his mom said bushwick and I thought that was in New Jersey, his mom said a cafe and they recognized him from when he lived there 3+ years ago.