RE: military overcompensation - Page 13

**Lubaolong** · 12-24-2006, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by titlefight

And why didn't you have a good relationship with you're parents?

A lot of reasons. They were always very strict and critical of everything I did. My dad was an ass to most everyone and a thief. Not a petty thief, but the kind that runs a big company and cheats on his taxes and also draws disability on the side. I've actually reported them a couple times, but they were not caught. Anyway, my grandparents lived within walking distance and were very nurturing, wise, and also successful and took care of my sister and me. So we spent most of childhoods with them. They bought most of the nice toys and things we enjoyed together. We never had any relationship with our parents to amount to anything.

When I went to college, on full scholarships mind you, my father wouldn't allow me to choose my major. I wanted to major in engineering, but he said it didn't pay enough. At the time, they were paying for my car insurance, so had some control over my life. I had little choice to argue. I ended up being a premed major for a semester.. something I hated. I didn't go to my classes, lost my scholarship, and my dad flipped out. He told me I wasn't his son and kicked me out.. So I went and lived with my grandparents. I retook the classes I had before at a local college, did fine, got more scholarships again, but they didn't have an engineering program (liberal arts school) and I had no idea what I could do to make good money, so after a couple years of college I ended up running away..

My sister had just gotten back from China with crates full of counterfeit Beanie Babies (that was when they first came out) and I helped her sell them at various flea markets for a 10% cut of the profit. After earning about $1000, I bought a plane ticket to Panama City, Panama and hopped on a plane with a few hundred dollars left in my pocket. After about a year or so, I realized I was just wasting my life away, so I came home. I tried to finish a degree, but my parents were still the same, controlling, jackasses.. so I ended up joining the military. That pissed them off to no end. They forbid me from going to MEPS for testing, but I just got a ride and went anyway.

While I was in the military, my dad left my mom for whatever reasons. She came home one day from a trip to NYC or somewhere and the house was completely empty. TVs, clothes, two company garages full of machines and tools, my personal belongings, photos, blankets, beds, he didn't even leave a toothpick. After months of investigation, she also discovered he had been taking money out of the business that she couldn't account for. She got screwed hundreds of thousands, if not $1+ million from the business that he would have had to split. We aren't even really sure how much he stole, but it was a lot. They were in courts for a few years. He maintained his story that someone must have broken in after he left and stole everything, and there wasn't much proof otherwise. I haven't talked to him since then.. that was probably 5 years ago.. and I rarely talk with my mom. She still has nothing nice to say to anyone. She constantly bitches and is always negative about everything. So I have no time for her.

So that is a short summary of why I am not close to my parents.

Doughbelly · 12-24-2006, 04:49 PM

I was going to post to this thread but it's so fucked up on so many levels, I have nothing to say.

One of my favorite quotes is a line attributed to Wolfgang Pauli. "This paper (OP) is so bad, it's not even wrong."

mindspa · 12-24-2006, 05:06 PM

therapy a whole boat load of it . get yourself donated to mental science , this is the most outragious posts I have EVER read DUDE get help fast

Title Fight Productions · 12-24-2006, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Lubaolong

So that is a short summary of why I am not close to my parents.

Not to pry, but what about you're parents relationship with you're grandparents?

**Lubaolong** · 12-24-2006, 05:17 PM

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Originally Posted by mindspa

therapy a whole boat load of it . get yourself donated to mental science , this is the most outragious posts I have EVER read DUDE get help fast

Whatever. I have a loving family now (me, my wife, and daughter) and am doing fine. I'm not doing bad. Everyone has some goals they feel they need to accomplish. The goal of a homeless man's son is not going to be the same as the goal of Bill Gates' son. One might want to earn enough to feed himself while the other might want to be a billionaire before he's 30. And everyone has issues in their lives. Some parents beat their children, some neglect them, some don't teach responsibility. Everyone has different problems. Because my problems and worries are different than yours doesn't mean I have a problem.

d brooks · 12-24-2006, 05:25 PM

Damn, this thread has gone emo

please send it to mayberry

mindspa · 12-24-2006, 05:33 PM

mayberry or straight to the mental clinic. Dude your head hurts because you have an ILLNESS get it cheched out before your whole mind suffers .

**Lubaolong** · 12-24-2006, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by titlefight

Not to pry, but what about you're parents relationship with you're grandparents?

Ok.. another short story. My grandparents always did everything for my parents. My grandmother told me my mother was quite a bit of trouble when she was younger. No matter what rule it was, she always had to break it. My mother felt my grandparents loved their other daughter more than her. So she always did bad things.. all the time. My grandparents still loved and cared for my mother, they gave her land and bought her a house to live in when she married my father. There were several times when I was very little before my dad became successful that I remember them giving us money. I remember them giving my parents $10k to use to build a pool with for us, a satellite dish, they bought cars for them, and later on they bought 2 cars for my sister, and one for me once too. My grandfather sold a company to my dad, for practically free compared to the income it earned, to help him get started. They did everything for us.

Sometime, I don't remember when exactly, several acres of ground opened up adjacent to the property that my grandparents owned and the property they bought for my parents. My grandparents said they would buy all the property and would split it 50/50 with my parents. My dad was friends with the seller, and took my grandparent's money to go buy the land. He put it all in his name. This was the beginning of the problems between my father and grandparents. He told them someone wouldn't allow the property to be split up and two titles licensed or something. I don't remember his story, but he basically stole the ground and their money. Later when he kicked me out after my first semester in college, my grandparents went to talk to him about the situation. He yelled at them, cursed them, told them to mind their own business, threatened them, all kinds of crazy stuff. Told them to get the hell out of his house.. lol the house they bought for him. My mother just sat by his side with her mouth shut. So since then.. I don't know when that was.. maybe 1996? they didn't talk to each other anymore. My parents always tried to bad talk my grandparents. It really pissed me off. It wasn't until just a few years ago when my dad stole everything from my mom did my mom call my grandparents again. I guess she had no one to help her and needed their help. If that hadn't happened, I doubt she would have ever had talked to them again.

So basically my dad is a ***, my mother has always been a troublemaker, and they are worthless people. My sister feels the same, as does my aunt and the rest of the people that are close to our family.

**Lubaolong** · 12-24-2006, 05:41 PM

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Originally Posted by mindspa

mayberry or straight to the mental clinic. Dude your head hurts because you have an ILLNESS get it cheched out before your whole mind suffers .

I don't think I have any major problems. I am very normal considering the circumstances and am well liked amongst peers. I have a happy family. I'm a hard worker. My only problem is I am hard on myself and want to improve and do better for my family. Is that such an illness?

Title Fight Productions · 12-24-2006, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Lubaolong

Is that such an illness?

Depends on how it effects you're relationship with you're kids now, and in the future.