[mcluvin]

has anyone of you been accused of being too controlling by your lady? what does that mean? if a guy doesnt stand firm in some positions then he's a push over, and someone steps into your place. if you are taking care of things and on top of whats going on around you thats a controlling person? thoughts?

[Smashandgrab]

Its not that I'm controlling, its that she doesn't listen!!!!!!

[CsRyan]

Originally Posted by mcluvin

has anyone of you been accused of being too controlling by your lady? what does that mean? if a guy doesnt stand firm in some positions then he's a push over, and someone steps into your place. if you are taking care of things and on top of whats going on around you thats a controlling person? thoughts?

what does standing firm mean? My guess is that if she' calling you controlling, you are.

and FYI, he only girl that ever cheated on me was my first girlfriend, which coincidentally was the only one where i was possessive and controlling. I wouldn't worry about someone taking your place. If its gonna happen it's gonna happen regardless of how controlling you are

[Ultrashogun]

The ideal you should strive for is to have a rational, sensible set of limits, which are mutually agreed upon and based on common sense. If those limits are overstepped then you would in fact be a pushover to tolerate it, if you get pissed off before those limits get overstepped then you are too controlling.

In the end it all boils down to trust anyway.

[Provocateur]

Ive been accused of that in past relatioships. But my wife understands me.

[Goth_Judoka]

Nope, I'm more of the...."He doesn't care!" type.

[magicman531]

If given a free rein, they'll run off like a loose dog in heat. So put the pronged choke collar on and pull them tight.

[Decommissioner]

Women for the most part look for a man that has two important things. Are they reliable and can provide for them in times of trouble (food/shelter/security) and are they a leader. If your woman thinks you are "too controlling" then she is probably masking some other issues that she has with you. Either way it sounds like she is a nut case or you are either VERY VERY anal retentive / controlling.

I believe if you were the latter then you would not be questioning or wanting your controlling side validated therefore I believe you need to dump that bitch pronto. Don't let them fool you, women love to be the more passive or submissive one in the relationship. Unless of course they are one of those dominatrix style broads..

[mcluvin]

dont get me wrong i have my moments of going overboard. but for the most part im more sensible and down to earth with things like money. she wants to buy crap, literally buying useless crap for herself, birthday presents or something for someone. i'll usually say i dont need or want something. she'll go broke and when i dont then it stands out that 'hey not buying bullsh*t is better for things like newer cars and real important issues like bills. this is translated into either im cheap or controlling but she's always broke and cant figure out why. while she's tired from not planning things out im well rested in advance. so i let her do her thing and suggest things here or there never really saying 'this is what i want or expect'. the firmness i dont bend on is wasting time wasting money and having friendships with opposite sex that i can tell are only trying to get in between us- you know, the college guy 'friend' who just wants to talk. i'll show him the bad end of my mma glove.

[Three Gun Fish]

Originally Posted by mcluvin

has anyone of you been accused of being too controlling by your lady? what does that mean? if a guy doesnt stand firm in some positions then he's a push over, and someone steps into your place. if you are taking care of things and on top of whats going on around you thats a controlling person? thoughts?

Hah, do yourself a favor and don't take it too hard.

When your lady says something like that, it really means, "Treat me nicer."

So treat her nicer.

That's all it means.