Yo, I girl need help....

PoopMcScoop · 11-30-2006, 04:33 PM

Hey, there's this chick at my work who is ultra-hot. She talks to me a little bit whenever she see's me. The only problem is that I've never had a conversation with her that's lasted longer than a minute. So I'm thinking about asking her out to get to know her better. Is this the right strategy?

MODE ROGUE · 11-30-2006, 04:40 PM

You're not very popular with the lady's are you?

Zeke's Chaingun · 11-30-2006, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by PoopMcScoop

Hey, there's this chick at my work who is ultra-hot. She talks to me a little bit whenever she see's me. The only problem is that I've never had a conversation with her that's lasted longer than a minute. So I'm thinking about asking her out to get to know her better. Is this the right strategy?

Yes it is. There is nothing wrong with only having spoken to her a few times for under a minute. In fact, that's preferable. It's a hellova lot better than having spoken to her hours at a time over a period of months before mustering the nerve.

Ask her out. Don't tell her how much you like her, just ask her out on a date, have a specific place and specific time in mind. Don't choose Saturday or Friday, those days are for your friends or a girl you're serious with. Also, be prepared to counter offer a second date if she can't make the first one. Have a plan and a back up plan in mind when you ask her out. If she gives you a silly excuse, blow through it and tease her over it. If you are unable to get a date then get her number and try one more time the following week. If she isn't actively trying to go out with you-no matter what words or excuses she uses-then she's not interested and move on.

Do this soon.

NHB7 · 11-30-2006, 05:13 PM

Listen to Zeke. He is the voice of reason in these matters. You may have questions in your head like, "But what about, and what if this?" Ignore those questions and just do what he says.

I agree with Zeke as well. You don't need to create a long rapport to ask a girl out. It is rare that any guy says, "I knew her for years then we just decided to start dating."

Estemachine · 11-30-2006, 05:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Zeke's Chaingun

Yes it is. There is nothing wrong with only having spoken to her a few times for under a minute. In fact, that's preferable. It's a hellova lot better than having spoken to her hours at a time over a period of months before mustering the nerve.

Ask her out. Don't tell her how much you like her, just ask her out on a date, have a specific place and specific time in mind. Don't choose Saturday or Friday, those days are for your friends or a girl you're serious with. Also, be prepared to counter offer a second date if she can't make the first one. Have a plan and a back up plan in mind when you ask her out. If she gives you a silly excuse, blow through it and tease her over it. If you are unable to get a date then get her number and try one more time the following week. If she isn't actively trying to go out with you-no matter what words or excuses she uses-then she's not interested and move on.

Do this soon.

Thats a pretty fucking good answer.

Also if you ask her on a date, NOOOO MOVIES!! take her for a coffee or something, somewhere u can get to TALK with her, I would say no Sundays either. So you have wed and Thurs are good days for the date, and remember be confident, cocky but funny at the same time.

Timbaland · 11-30-2006, 05:53 PM

Yea you should ask her out man. You have nothing to lose. Besides it takes a confident guy to do this, chicks dig it.

NHB7 · 11-30-2006, 05:55 PM

I would add, make it a short date. If you go to coffee, hang for an hour and an hour to a half and then "have to be somewhere." If she is interested in you, there is no harm in leaving her wanting more, if she isn't, then you don't waste anymore of your time.

Alcoholica · 11-30-2006, 06:00 PM

Take her out to dinner on a tues, weds, or thursday night. Ask her interesting questions, no yes or no types. Stuff like what she wanted to be when she was a kid, if she could live anywhere in the world and why. Good luck.

Ualue · 11-30-2006, 06:27 PM

It's a bad idea. Hopefully you're not one of those guys that always asks girls permission for everything first, compliments her all the time, and says sorry all the time to her.

If you want to ask her and have her say yes, you need to build attraction first.

You need to flirt with her. Not overboard but just a little. Tease her a bit in a good natured way. Whether we're back in kindergarten and teasing them, or they're 60 years old...the female gender likes to be teased (remember, not too much). Then the next time you see her...flat out ignore her. Next time, flirt with her again.

What does this do on her end? Makes her think "Did I do something wrong? Why isn't he talking to me this time? He usually does. Is it my hair today? My clothes? *checks mirror* Hhmm"

Women aren't used to getting mixed signals like this and it will drive her nuts.

And I 100% disagree with Zeke especially on the point of "Be ready to counter offer a second date."

Think of it this way...if you really want to do something but can't on a certain date/time...what do you say? You'd say "I can't on that day but how about this one?" If she says no, that means no. Don't waste your time with a counter offer. If she says "no, but how about this night?" then you're in.

Good luck.

rock n roll · 11-30-2006, 06:30 PM

Good advice all around. Continuing with what zeke said, girls don't like it when you pull the "Umm, I don't know, where do you want to go..?" Girls like it when a guy takes charge when it comes to dates. Trust me, i've almost ruined a couple of dates because I didn't have somewhere in mind when I asked a girl out.
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