[NHB7]

Originally Posted by Minotauro693

To NHB7:

I have cut all ties with her. The only explanation I can give you for keeping tabs on her is that I'm interested in the 180 she has pulled, other than that I have no explanation. I don't feel like I still like her or want her, but maybe I do...I won't rule out any possibilities. I told you I'm suspicious, its safe...it allows me to never be surprised by others. If I am expecting the unexpected...then I can't ever be 1-uped. If I am 1-uped..I'm not devestated by shock which would prevent or delay me from recovering.

This is as best as I can explain it.

Well to be fair I really just put my own defintions to you words. I was just kind of using this as a way to explain my opinions to other posters that might be interested. Didn't mean to bash you or anything.

[Minotauro693]

I don't feel bashed(by you or the Sher-tough guys). Like I said, I wanted some advice or insight. I think its important to know how you are perceived by others. Thanks for the contributions not only to you, but everyone..even those talking shit.

[Minotauro693]

Originally Posted by Pennywise03

I love it, why are all women whores..."I've slept with 20 women"

Yes, Pennywise...that's exactly what I said, all women are whores.

Maybe if you read the thread title you'd see that I said become..and never used the word "all."

The word "whore" is critical because that's what a girl who goes out and hooks up regularly is, not by my definition, but by social definition. And its also crucial to note that my recent ex strictly claimed to not engage in frequent casual sex, yet switches upon breakup. Please read the thread before you add to your post count.

[Jujitsuboxer]

calm down buddy sry i hadnt' read NHB's thing rihgt above mine i was reading 2nd page and posted that. Also i thnk you are jelouse in the sense of "why wasn't she freaky like that with me" being all this is completley opposite of what she normally does sounds liek that is how she is and u made her all boring and shit good job

[Mad Greek]

Originally Posted by w0cyru01

If you completely write them off, why do you care?

I second this statement.

The poster obviously does care and what his ex does bothers him.

Thus, his ex mission is accomplished.

[HUNTERMANIA!!!]

I can relate to minotauro's suspicions.. I am the same way, but with almost everyone. I had attachment issues younger and I think that something to do with it, but I am very wary with people. Lately though, I've been getting better at trusting because no trust has been broken in a long time.

[dredson33]

kill them all

[GoldenPanda]

I find this thread very interesting because i have a very close friend who over the past year went through this 'whore' transformation, and i'm like you i have a need to understand things so i talk to her about it all the time.

Her story: she was going out with a guy for 3 years, got bored and they started fighting and then she got drunk and made out with a guy, her bf at the time flips out and they break up.
A week later she's going out with a guy from her work, this is obviously just a litle fling to get over her break up, nothing wrong with this even guys do it.
This relationship goes on for about 3 months then she goes to another party, gets drunk and makes out with another guy.. then she breaks up with the guy shes going out with to go out with the guy she most recently made out with. Now with this guy she told me that she didnt like him in the begining but he kinda grew onto her and he was loaded.
Two months later she ends that relationship and because how i kept hounding her about turning into a slut she took a couple months off but now she's got a new guy, the guys always been kind of an acquatince of mine and was a friend of hers.
When she first started with this guy they were just screwing around being just fuk-buddies and her excuse was that she needed it to get over her last relationship, which was with a guy she didnt even care about. She kept saying she didnt want another bf but after a week of just fuking they started going out.
Also, now whenever she goes to a club she comes back with stories of making out with guys.

Now, i constantly question her with things like:

"why do you go out with these guys and do things with them if you dont actually want to do it?" she just says she doesnt know..

"dont you think its kinda slutty to make out with whatever guy treats you nicely in a club?"
Her answer: not really, its just making out, and that everyone does it so its not a bad thing - she actually said that she does it because other people do it....

"you see nothing somewhat wrong with fuck buddies??"
her answer: well when guys do it they get patted on the back and congradulated but when a girl does it shes a slut?


The last one is the only good point she's ever made about the subject.

My theory about this from watching her change is that becoming a 'whore' is exactly the same as a person becoming a criminal and drug addicts. What happens is that they do these slutty actions and they hang around people who act the same and they create a little sub-culture where their actions are justified. Now since they are surrounded in this slut atmosphere they begin to feel that theres nothing wrong with what they're doing.

It's a spiral down, first it starts with "oh its nothing hers just for the rebound" then "oh its nothing its just making out and having fun" then it turns into "oh its just sex, it feels good just getting harmless pleasure"

In my opinion the only thing that can stop a person like this is to let the grow out of it, be a friend but keep distance. The most important thing to do is to not do what she does or it'll encorurage her, if you act differently she'll always be able to see that what she's doing isn't the only way to go and then those options will always be open to her when she grows up and stops slutting around.


All of this has been formed from experience and very deep and honest discussions with a girl who can be ideally described by the theme of this topic.

This girl even with all the shit she does is still a very close friend, like a little sister to me and i know her and i know that when she matures and stops doing what she's doing she'll be a great person.

[Greasemonk]

From my experience I turned my ex gf into a whore after she gave me head...

One of her best friends say she needs attention from guys to be happy she moves from guy to guy every month, so I guess for her to be happy she needs to blow lots of guys

Anyone else have an ex similar to her?

[zigzzagz]

Originally Posted by Minotauro693

I have only dated three girls in my life.

I have slept with exactly 20. Only the aforementioned three more than once. All others were one nighters.

I just broke it off on my terms completely with my last girlfriend who was living with me(long story, but not because we planned to get married).

I am not outwardly emotional, but inside I am very emotional. I remember specifics and I pay close attention. I am very suspicious as well. I'm also very analytical.

I have ended all relationships and all three women seemed to be deeply in love with me and expressed that frequently. However, when all relationships ended each girl went out and partied hard and did things I wouldn't expect them to do(although due to my suspicious nature I would never rule it out.) I completely write girls off when I'm done with them, that is, I let them know their flaws and why I dont wish to know them anymore when we break up.
Anyways my last girlfriend let me know a few weeks after we broke up about how much partying she was doing. How she hooked up with a guy(she previously claimed that one nighters were not for her...she says this wasn't a one nighter b/c she talked with the guy weeks before..yet they hooked up once...maybe they will continue to hook up, but IMO fuck buddies and one nighters are on the same level..just w/a FB you do it more than once), made out with a couple guys, and even kissed a girl...which she was wayyyy against doing. I've kept up with her via her myspace profile and she doesn't know that I keep tabs on her. She has a lot of new girlfriends now(something she never had while we were together) and is partying a lot and I hear about how she has all these "boy-toys" as she calls them.


My question is why do all the women i know become whores after our breakup. This is a bad sign, no?

You think she doesn't know you're looking at what she writes in her myspace account? She's not making this stuff public for anyones benefit except yours. Don't be naive. She's trying to rub your nose in it so don't play into it. If you're not interested stop reading it, and for god sakes if you bump into her, do not say 'I know what you're all about you slut' then she's got your goat and you've played right into her hands. This all is part of her own corrupt mind so don't let it bother you. The best revenge my friend is 'living well' without them. If you bump into her, smile and say 'good to see you're doing so well, I'm glad for you' and that's it make no mention of her antics. No reason for any more. If she were to ask if you've been by her myspace tell her 'no, I haven't really.' All her slutting around will have been wasted. I'm not suggesting you get into playing head games, because they're the worst but she's already started it, and you've already read it and are bothered by it. This is just a way to end it without her getting the satisfaction she intended from her efforts to make you jealous, and burn you. Basically ignore it.

Why do women become sluts? Because to some sex is a weapon, and a damned formidable one at that. This is most likely her cause, and she's trying to point that weapon at you. To others it's just their nature to be promiscuous and can also be about power. The power to make you want them, to bend you to their will. Some women can't seem to relax and enjoy themselves till everyone at the table wants them, and if one man appears sexually uninterested, all her efforts are toward and about him, though not necessarilly directly. She may be direct, but may also ignore him or be rude to him for daring not to want her but believe me all her hair flipping and coy poses will be for his benefit. I've had a girlfriend just like that. Beautiful in the extreme but demented. Also to others psychologically it's about self affirmation and validation. "I must be OK if I'm still wanted" and because of low self esteem they need to prove this to themselves over and over again. I think these are some of the most prominent reasons anyways.