[I Am Korean]

Post count.

[Herakles]

I think its all the factors you listed but many people have them in diffrent combinations. There's really not that many people that have all of those.

[markulous]

Originally Posted by efg

That's what I thought of first too, but I think charisma is a product of self-respect. An example is some bad-ass dude who doesn't give a fuck about anyone else -- he is not particularly charismatic, but he engenders respect.

I think it's the other way around. The guy who is bad-ass is just another type of charisma.

[TeTe lol Chin]

It's like Ben Affleck said in the movie Boiler room:

"We have a saying around here, it's called 'act as if.'" "Act as if you are the president and CEO of the fucking company." "Act as if you have a nine inch cock." "Act as if"

No matter what you look like, intelligence and being well spoken trumps all.

[CenterMass]

I think it's more.

When asked by 20/20s Barbara Walters

Imelda Marcos once said in responding the following way:

Barbara Walters: "How Much Money do you have?"

Imelda Marcos: "If you know how much money you have in your bank account? You probably don't have that much"


Classic piece of history, and just a taste of what the truly respected albeit crazy tyranist like her, are.

[Tea Cake]

first impression for ignorants, like us

[omgitsrick]

Originally Posted by Colin297

Social dynamics is an interesting thing.

Lately, on numerous occasions ive noticed how some people receive more respect and attention than others.

I'm not talking of famous people etc, just an everyday interaction or club situation where you and your friends go out and meet other people, some you know some you dont.

if im honest id say im somewhere in the middle, some people seem to take to me, some people dont and vice versa of course. What im intruged about though, is how some people almost effortlessly get more respect than another from a perfect stranger or someone they barely know, perhaps after only a few words. Why is this; somethings the coldness of it pisses me off regardless of which side im on at the time im generally aware its petty and founded upon screwed up human mentality for most part..


What do you think are the factors here and to which degrees...

Reputation?
Appearance?
Body language?
Conversation?
How approachable or fun you come across etc...?



anyone have any examples or comments?

It's definitely appearance, its the first thing someone sees and judges a person by.

[Bill Cosby]

who wants to respect someone meek and quiet ?

they want to establish themselves as above another person.

[Palakol]

i think it's the body language.

[Enzuguri]

It's what you say, how you say it and you present yourself. Looks may have something to do with it, but that's the gist of how that kind of thing works. I know a guy that is the complete opposite of shy. He'll talk to anyone about anything, but the thing is, he's a complete douchebag and people normally give him the short responses so that he'll go away. Me on the other hand, i'm much more quiet and reserved but at the same time capable of holding my own when i talk to a complete stranger...