[MrPissant]

A very close friend of mine (who was a serious girlfriend of mine 18 years ago), came to me today and told me she's getting married.

I've been married 17 years, and for various circumstances didnt marry the one above. Anyway, we've stayed friends and worked on and off for years. My wife and her have become very good friends, and it's always been an appropriate relationship.

But it's weird to me.

You never forget one you love. You may never act on feelings because they're wrong when you're committed to your chosen spouse. I love my wife deeply and we have a great relationship even though of course there are n atural times where you truly can't stand each other.

But this news hit me and I was like WOW. After all these years you finally decide to settle down.

My friend was happy, but also you could see both of us are sorry, that so long ago we could n ot work things out between us. Fate worked for the better and I truly am happy for her.

The only thing I could think to do was give her a hug, congratulate her and speak highly of her fiance. He is really a good man, so I was sincere.

But is it wrong to feel just a little bewildered and even in some small way hurt? I mean, seeing her married? I truly wish her the best and am happy with who she's marrying, but at the same time.

A part of you dies.

Sorry for the emo. Just wondering if anyone experienced this or similar situatins before.

[Chokin_my_Chick]

kind of on the same boat but she didnt get married. ive slept with other woman but it does hurt to know she moved on.

[AJax]

Originally Posted by DeathNTaxes

Lol

There is absolutely no use for lame, worthless posts like this, especially in Mayberry.

TS, I have been there too, but it only lasted for a short time, and we had dated much more recently than in your case. Sucks, but you'll get over it.

[TGDIVA]

we dated.

she broke up with me. we got back together.
she broke up with me again. we got back together again.
i broke up with her. we never got back together.

she spent 5 years trying to get back together before finally giving up.

she got married october 2007.

when she sent wedding pictures i kinda felt like it should have been me by her side.

she still calls me at work once every 2-3 months out of the blue.
mostly to see if i'm dating someone yet.

when i talk to her on the phone my love for being single is reinforced!

but i feel ya...

[Wedgebuster]

One word: Swingers

[MeBig]

TS, what do you think it is that's making you have negative emotions?

[Sonny]

Was this in poor taste?

[ZainGFY]

I was engaged once...she broke up with me because we were so different though I did love her, and sometimes wish that we could have worked out but it's better now, I'm happy with my life and have done things that I wouldn't have done if I was with her. I know she's probably going to marry the guy she's with but hey what can I do about it.

[PhilCam]

Hey man it's natural to have that kind of "what if" or "what could have been" feeling in situtations like yours, but you should happy it sounds like you're in a great situation with your wife and your friend. I think you should focus more on the good and feel great about where you're at.

[Sonny]

Originally Posted by ZainGFY

Hahahahaha.....awesome.

On a serious note, I sort of got a sick feeling in my stomach seeing them together, but that might've been the beer.