What is the defination of having an affair pt1? - Page 3

ca_styles · 05-19-2008, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Three Gun Fish

You're kind of asking for it. Maybe this thread is a way to make amends, but you can't seriously wonder whether this was an affair or not. Especially when you already know what you did -- whatever you want to call it -- was the wrong thing to do. Maybe you did not want to admit it you yourself, not really.

You ought not deny yourself.

Accepting the pain of who you are today will forge a stronger foundation for the man you can become tomorrow.

Thank you for your comment. when i started this thread i just wanted my question asked, i didnt want abuse even though i asked for it. i guess im not looking at the bigger picture which i ought to be.

ca_styles · 05-19-2008, 10:50 AM

double post sorry

TGDIVA · 05-19-2008, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by ca_styles

Thank you for your comment. when i started this thread i just wanted my question asked, i didnt want abuse even though i asked for it. i guess im not looking at the bigger picture which i ought to be.

The "bigger picture" is you've made a mistake.

You know it's a mistake regardless of what it's called.

Are you going to repeat it over and over(like it sounds) or learn from it, get stronger and become better than you are today?

Theprospect26 · 05-19-2008, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by ca_styles

This may be a dumb question but i need answers. Heres the story, me and my friends wife started to get close, we would call each other all the time and gradually became infactuated with each other.

I came over to her house one day to meet up with her husband/my friend but i came 20 minutes early and he was still at work. This was the first time i saw her since we both told each other how we felt about each on the phone. It was a really awkard situation but we ended up kissing and groping each other. We stopped soon after that cause my friend/her husband was gonna be home in a few minutes.

It was really weird cause we both had to act like nothing had happend. I felt like a complete bastard for betraying my friend, but my emotions were just too strong for this women.

Well any way the next day she leaves him. I see her the next day and we sleep with each other. But we both feel guilty cause the husband /friend doesnt know about our relationship, he just thinks that she just left cause she is unhappy.

So she tells him everything. Hes both pissed at us ( understandbly so). So me and his wife have a relationship based on feelings for each other and sex. So the question im asking is that is it technically an affair if the the husband knows from the start what we are doing?

All you need to know is that you're a total prick. Your own friends wife, bro? That's a dirty thing to do and shows you don't care about anyone but yourself. I hope that dudes beats the shit out of you, and the only reason why he shouldn't kill you is so you can think about what you did, while you're laying in a puddle of your own blood.

With friends like you who needs enemies?

ca_styles · 05-19-2008, 10:57 AM

Yes, this counts as an affair and any other approach or questioning around it is just you trying to justify your actions.

That said, most relationships that start off through chaos end in chaos. Think about that. (quote)

By saying "IF this relationship or affair ends..." you ARE justifying your actions by repeating them. (quote)

Both right

ca_styles · 05-19-2008, 11:02 AM

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Originally Posted by TGDIVA

The "bigger picture" is you've made a mistake.

You know it's a mistake regardless of what it's called.

Are you going to repeat it over and over(like it sounds) or learn from it, get stronger and become better than you are today?

Your right i need to learn from this mistake by locking her off completely. I was dumb and naive to think this "AFFAIR" was not detrimental to my oppinion on my self.

ca_styles · 05-19-2008, 11:06 AM

I needed this wake up call 2 months ago. Ive been hanging around other friends who have been basically justifying my actions thinking that what i did was alright. Ive had my head in the clouds indenial big time.

Mystile · 05-19-2008, 11:08 AM

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Originally Posted by ca_styles

I needed this wake up call 2 months ago. Ive been hanging around other friends who have been basically justifying my actions thinking that what i did was alright. Ive had my head in the clouds indenial big time.

How in the hell is it possible for someone to rationally justify this?