Unconditional love vs discipline/consequences of actions

yendor28 · 05-09-2006, 09:55 PM

How does one give Unconditional love yet provide discipline/consequences of actions.

This could relate to children or spouse/partner.

Say a person wants to do or does something that seems harmful. Eg. a spouse cheats on you or a child wants to throw away something important for what seems a bad reason such as peer pressure.

For children, perhaps one way is to give your feelings/views on the matter but then support whatever the decision the child makes even if you do not like it.

Unconditional love for a partner confuses me though as how can it be unconditional?

tom sumter · 05-09-2006, 10:30 PM

Love can manifest itself in the punishment you give someone. I'm sure at times it hurt my parents when they had to discipline me, but they sucked it up and did it because it was in my best interests.

VampireMonk · 05-09-2006, 11:45 PM

discipline and what not those kinds of judgements
are given as if your god.

judge jury executioner is being god.

what arrogance.

Wolfcastle · 05-10-2006, 01:40 AM

Well I have no kids so I won't comment much on this one (By the way, are you doing these topics you come up with for uni courses or something?)

In regards to spouses, I think your question can tie in with the topic made recently about hate. (Not the I fucking hate my ex one, but the other one, I can't think of the title).

It explores people being hurt by those they love and as a result, obviously that love is withdrawn at that point. Have a look.

hippiass · 05-10-2006, 02:58 PM

This is a very difficult question to answer for the simple reason that love isnt logical nor rational. Its an emotion and as such, its so broad and illogical that it sometimes defies reason. People feel unconditional love for no reason other than they just do. Just accept that it happens and thats the way things wil always be.