so i watched that Closer flick

gza · 02-13-2008, 11:58 PM

and it got me thinking.

for anyone whos not seen the movie its pretty much about 2 couples who cheat on each other...with...well, each other. it's kinda like a love square instead of a love triangle. anyway, it's really dramatic and all, but after watching i had a question i'd want peoples opinion on.

if your gf or wife cheated on you, and you for whatever reason decided to stay with her, would you want to know every dirty little detail of every occurrence where she cheated on you, or would you rather they stay silent and you never know about what really happened?

details as in: how often, how many times, when, did he fuck you in the ass, did he wipe his dick off on your slutty face, etc

YellowHare · 02-14-2008, 12:22 AM

I was actually in the exact position that you're referring to and I had her spill every single detail to me. This wasn't due to me being some sort of masochist who enjoyed the pain, far from it. Rather, I have a pretty imaginative mind and I was far better off knowing the truth than relying on my possible exaggerations. Some of it haunted me for quite some time, but it was still very therapeutic once I realized that her experience was, if anything, quite sad and pathetic. Of course, that's not to say that it would work out that way for everyone.

Three Gun Fish · 02-14-2008, 12:26 AM

I probably wouldn't want to know until the distant future. Give me time to learn to laugh about being a cuckolding schmuck. Only kidding.

But seriously - I'd want to avoid making it worse, because I'm a rude interrogator. Part of me thinks eliciting details is trying to get MORE upset. I'd think it best to let emotions settle before digging too deeply. That's just me.

jamers · 02-14-2008, 12:27 AM

i dunno, but good movie!

Happy Boy · 02-14-2008, 12:43 AM

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Originally Posted by YellowHare

I was actually in the exact position that you're referring to and I had her spill every single detail to me. This wasn't due to me being some sort of masochist who enjoyed the pain, far from it. Rather, I have a pretty imaginative mind and I was far better off knowing the truth than relying on my possible exaggerations. Some of it haunted me for quite some time, but it was still very therapeutic once I realized that her experience was, if anything, quite sad and pathetic. Of course, that's not to say that it would work out that way for everyone.

You stayed after an infidelity? Wow, thats some strength right there. Kudos. I dont think I could. I could try and move on, but I dont think I could ever trust someone again if they did that to the relationship, I couldn't look at them the same ever again and it would end up destroying the relationship.

RichardFromBTBS · 02-14-2008, 12:54 AM

I don't think I could stay with my woman if she cheated on me, but if for some reason I elected to do so, I'd want to know everything.

niven · 02-14-2008, 12:56 AM

sounds a bit heavy going

gza · 02-14-2008, 01:02 AM

as already stated i'd think knowing every detail would haunt me if it ever happened. but then again, since i too have a wandering imagination, my thoughts would probably be all over the place as well.

you're pretty much fucked either way, unless your mind doesn't dwell on that shit

lefecious · 02-14-2008, 02:15 AM

The only way I would ever take her back is if she begged for my forgiveness, promised it would never happen again, shared all the dirty details, and suffered for a few months alone without dating anyone else while I decide whether or not I wish to take her back.

If any of these 4 things are missing, then I could not take her back.

And as far as the details thing goes, it's a necessity because as someone already mentioned, my imagination would cook up something much worse than the truth, so I'd rather just know the truth.

RichardFromBTBS · 02-14-2008, 02:20 AM

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Originally Posted by lefecious

The only way I would ever take her back is if she begged for my forgiveness, promised it would never happen again, shared all the dirty details, and suffered for a few months alone without dating anyone else while I decide whether or not I wish to take her back.

If any of these 4 things are missing, then I could not take her back.

And as far as the details thing goes, it's a necessity because as someone already mentioned, my imagination would cook up something much worse than the truth, so I'd rather just know the truth.

With regard to knowing the truth, it's worth noting that she might lie. I mean, we're talking about a chick that cheated on you.