[firemedic434]

Dude, in my experience, bartenders are a recipe for disaster. It's so easy to get jealous or overanalyze all the bullshit going on at the ber. She pretty much has to be kind flirtyish and friendly to get the tips and keep the customers comin back. Guys are gonna be constantly hitting on her. Recipe for disaster. Best of luck to you though. I have been MISERABLE with bartenders. I know there's that trust thing, but, It's sooo hard when you have to watch all the cretins hitting on her.

[stu3ufc]

you should of aked her out if u were interested in her at week 2----after u got hugged----

[Eric Loewer]

hey man, carpe diem. SEIZE THE DAY!!!

[Smashandgrab]

Originally Posted by firemedic434

Dude, in my experience, bartenders are a recipe for disaster. It's so easy to get jealous or overanalyze all the bullshit going on at the ber. She pretty much has to be kind flirtyish and friendly to get the tips and keep the customers comin back. Guys are gonna be constantly hitting on her. Recipe for disaster. Best of luck to you though. I have been MISERABLE with bartenders. I know there's that trust thing, but, It's sooo hard when you have to watch all the cretins hitting on her.

I agree with guy and based on the insight you've given us into your personality a bartender isn't a good match with you. You sound rather introverted and the fact that you remember all the details of your encounters leads me to believe that you most certainly will drive yourself crazy analyzing her behavior at the club.

My advice, find a nice, quiet chick who is more your speed.

[Evil_Veiled]

Girls are different from week to week, they have a "cycle", which believe it or not, can drastically affect their behavior, mood, EVERYTHING!

So yeah, now you know why guys have so much trouble with women. Because we aren't on a cycle, we feel pretty much the same today as we did two weeks ago.

Women will be more emotional on some days, looking for attention on some days, and so on.

Not so much useful advice, but it is good to know.

[Nodecaf]

Originally Posted by Fozzy

I do not get why you are confused, she cant do all the leg work, she was giving you all these signals in the beginning and then cooled down, what do you expect? For a chick to wait around forever for you to make a real move at something?

I'd say it's done.

~Foz

Yeah. Why tf did you wait. You know.......... Sometimes you get chicks thats really into you, yeah? You dont wait forever until she rapes you in front of everybody.
Know when its time to strike man.

[walnut]

Originally Posted by Smashandgrab

I agree with guy and based on the insight you've given us into your personality a bartender isn't a good match with you. You sound rather introverted and the fact that you remember all the details of your encounters leads me to believe that you most certainly will drive yourself crazy analyzing her behavior at the club.

My advice, find a nice, quiet chick who is more your speed.

100%...I was going to give you some sound advice on how to land her...

But now that I think of it....You might drive you crazy with a girl like that...
I see this shit everyday....
My G/F has been bartending for 10 years and danced for 3...
We both work together...she tends bar..I cook...no problem
Your Self Esteem better be top notch...

Bartenders choose who they want....very few guys land the bartender..
She chose you and you were rude to her and sounds like you could care less about her.

I wouldn't say anything about the poor service because you brought that upon yourself.
You said...other guys were getting pissed at her giving you the attention
...she took a chance with her tips to try to give a hint and get with you...and she was met with a cold shoulder

I bet she has 50 different guys at the bar who would go way outta the way to court her.

Personally I'd march back in there....stroke her ego all night...casually tell her the last month has been hell...you've been going through some shit...(make something up)...It's not lying if you believe it..

then ask her if she wants to hang out
Say..Ill buy the Liquor if you make the drinks....What can it hurt...the damage is already done my friend..

[Mithra]

She was interested, you ignored her, the end.

No big deal, you only talked to her a couple times so you put nothing into this.

[Bas Rutten Gear]

TL, just ask her out already!

No point in wondering about it. If you want to go out with her, go!!!!

[sonic death monkey]

she clearly has some interest in you dude, maybe youve missed your chance, maybe she's just an extremely friendly bartender, or maybe in a years time she'll tell you she really wanted you to ask her out but now shes engaged.

if your thinking about it enough to make a thread with the first post that long ( and thats not knocking you ) about it - then whats the worst that can happen - you ask her out she says yes or no.

you wont die of heartbreak if she doesnt say yes and it might go somewhere if she does.