[yendor28]

This is my lunch story from today.:


Just caught up for lunch with our legal counsel (Head lawyer). SO HOT! Beautiful smile. Deep eyes. I would guess early to mid 30s.


Had organised a chat about her career and my development (I have the same background)

I did not know she was the same person I was smiling at the last couple of months since arriving. She looks so young.



Anyway, I tried to keep it professional but.......



she emails me 5 min before and changes from a 'walk to a nearby park and an ice cream (her suggestion)' to a walk to a nearby cafe with a friend of hers.


Cool.


She brings some gossip girlfriend queen (gq). We start. First thing GQ says:



GQ: I am thinking about some pole dancing lessons for my birthday.



Stupid girl chatter 10 mins about pole dancing



Me: *trying to get into the conversation, albeit stupid



'Funny, that you mention that. My friend has just returned from Brazil. I bumped into her and she is a pole dancing instructor '





(true, she is going to give me some dance lessons (not pole related) this Sunday too, but I did not mention that.'



- silence from girls –evidently I was not on the same stupid wavelength



Then the girls say 'can we just look in here' *Gucci store.



One hour later. I stand like a stupid freak in all the fancy shops whilst they shop.


I joke saying 'DO NOT ask me what looks good'. They still do. I honestly felt like flirting but tried to keep it professional.


She asked me about my background and career but anytime we would start speaking STUPID GQ would interrupt and break the conversation as GQ had no legal knowledge AND was stupid enough to spend $450 on shoes and $250 on shorts. But they were DESIGNER DARLING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!



Anyway, professional benefit to me = nil. Personal benefit to me, nada.


Not the best lunch hour ever.


I feel like following up but I am interested in two paths. Personal (The lady is super sweet albeit a massive spender (only one meal at home in the last 8 years) lives in the richest neighbourhood and loves sailing (not cheap and not my cup of tea). The other side is professional.

Any suggestions on what to do? I am going to send a follow up email saying perhaps we can catch up properly just the two of us when convenient.


Also, just for my benefit, what is the etiquette/protocol for going shopping with a lady. I usually just go within the shop looking around and leave the girl to do her thing then check back later.

ANy suggestions for how to deal with the situation. I guess the main issues are:
*relationship at work (I know, I know but I would manage that)
* Relationship with older successful hot woman (I know I shouldn't but I am stumbling here thinking that she is probably thinking kids at her age and career success and I am not even THINKING that + I would not want to spend money to be with her . i.e going out to eat all the time is not cheap. I can spend my money better elsewhere thanks!)

It would be an AWESOME experience though!!!!!!!

* oh and I would have NO PROBLEM being with this girl. Stunning and wicked chemistry (at least from my side )

[mr.bigglesworth]

dont do it. she will ruin your life. how old are you btw? if she is more than 10 years older than you id suggest to just have sexual relations and not fall in love imagine when your 45-50 she'll be an old hag while you could be fuckin 20 year olds!

[bunnyclaws]

So she wasn't a crazed backpacker looking to crash in your house for 3 days?

[Oeshon]

thread is useless without pics

[mankoskidesu]

Don't worry too much about spending money on her. She is a lawyer, probably because she does not expect someone else to satisfy her taste. She could be a real good time. If I were you, I would wait until a hard day at work. Chat her up a little bit then drop the whole, "a beer would be nice right about now." If she agrees, then suggest the two of you go get a drink or two after work. Hopefully if all goes well, one drink turns into 6, then before you know it she is grabbing her ankles and begging you to spank her.

[HeadBanger]

Originally Posted by yendor28

Also, just for my benefit, what is the etiquette/protocol for going shopping with a lady. I usually just go within the shop looking around and leave the girl to do her thing then check back later.

The etiquette is don't do it. I think that she was testing you. Agreeing to go shopping with a chick and her friend = you're a pussy (not calling you one, just explaining). By spending time with her and her GQ friend you have become sweet aka friendship material. Also, stop going shopping with chicks.

Now, what you should have done when she changed the plans to shopping with her friend was say "actually something came up, what about we get together after work and get some coffee, or go to a bar for drinks. That way you would have had her to yourself in a comfortable environment.

My 2 cents.

[yendor28]

great posts! Spot on!!!!!!

The shopping was not planned. They sprung it on me whilst walking to the cafe. The biggest blunder was saying ok with her friend attending. MASSIVE no no. I just figured the friend would be in the legal fraternity also and able to assist me. Otherwise, at least we could sit down and socialise.

It was a bad mix of personalities as it appeared the friend and I were both competing for the woman's attention in a way. Everytime I would chat to the woman, the friend would intervene to try and regain the attention.

Everytime the friend had the attention, I would just wander off and do my own thing.

I did try and chat to both of them and the friend alone but the friend was just so annoying and ditzy!!!!!!!!

*note, so ditzy for high up in an organisation. Very surprising (the friend)

[yendor28]

Originally Posted by mankoskidesu

Don't worry too much about spending money on her. She is a lawyer, probably because she does not expect someone else to satisfy her taste. She could be a real good time. If I were you, I would wait until a hard day at work. Chat her up a little bit then drop the whole, "a beer would be nice right about now." If she agrees, then suggest the two of you go get a drink or two after work. Hopefully if all goes well, one drink turns into 6, then before you know it she is grabbing her ankles and begging you to spank her.

True and awesome suggestion!

I would not spend on her but even still it would be very expensive because even if we spit the bills (going out) she is more likely to spend more.

Eg. I am happy having a $5 lunch, $10 dinner

The restaurants she was talking about are minimum $30+ for a meal. Thus increasing my living expenses arguably unnecessarily just by hanging out with her.

I would implement my 'my invite/choice, I pay----- your invite/choice, you pay' rule

[Ian Coe]

I would personally leave it alone if your interested in your career (as you said in previous threads).


She could be flirting etc, but she could be a idiot when it comes to men (bringing a friend along....thats pretty suspect unless shes insecure).

And to be honest, you would have a really hard time controlling a work relationship, especially as shes higher in the chain then you

[Suspi]

You already struck out and entered the friend zone. Don't embarrass yourself further.