[Beach Head]

Guys I'm all fucked up in the head right now. I started seeing this girl at work for the last few months. She's 28 years old and I'm 29. I really started liking this girl and was thinking she's the one I could have children with and all that good stuff. She hardly goes out, we click really good, talk on the phone for hours, and always spent a lot of time together, she text messages me about 50 times a day, and she is a great piece of ass.

Now our job may change our schedules and we probably won't see each other much like we should. Some people know about our relationship and think we make a nice couple and there are also a lot of haters wanting us to go bad because I got the girl that those other fucks at work wanted.

She's now telling me that the change of hours may affect whether we continue to see each other or not. My heart is killing me thinking about this because I would see this girl once a week for a few hours if thats the only time I could. I still want to be with her but it looks like she doesn't feel the same. I feel that she's not even thinking about putting effort to see each other and now I feel like I was just a piece of ass for her and dropped. She even said if it happens then we could still be friends. I told her I'm not with fucking being friends and if she drops me because of that bullshit then I won't ever be friends with her. Obviously guys its not easy to be friends with someone u have feelings for. WTF do I do guys? Was I wrong in saying that I won't be her friend? Is there anyway to save this relationship? Serious insiteful replies please guys. This shit hurts.

[Mens Rea]

1. You shouldn't talk on the phone for hours.

2. You shouldn't tell her how you feel.

My advice: Tell her that if she wants to leave then she can.
Say, "Honey, take a good look. This is as good as it will ever get for you. Goodbye!"
Then wait for her to call. Do not call her. Date other girls. When she comes back act like nothing happened but never tell her your feelings again. Continue to date other girls.

[TheOne]

Sounds like a clear situation. You're attached to her and she is not to you. It may work for a while but sooner or later she walks away. Move on.

[Beach Head]

Originally Posted by Mens Rea

1. You shouldn't talk on the phone for hours.

2. You shouldn't tell her how you feel.

My advice: Tell her that if she wants to leave then she can.
Say, "Honey, take a good look. This is as good as it will ever get for you. Goodbye!"
Then wait for her to call. Do not call her. Date other girls. When she comes back act like nothing happened but never tell her your feelings again. Continue to date other girls.

So u mean that I should end it first before the change of schedule. Do I still tell her I'll be her friend? Shit sux cause we gotta work together.

[Steve Dougson]

Go fuck ten other women, and then see if you still want her.

[Wolfcastle]

Thats why you don't fuck chicks you work with. It either ends in a break up or marriage. Neither is particularly apppealing these days.

And afterwards, you have to see them EVERY day.

[Zeke's Chaingun]

Originally Posted by Beach Head

Guys I'm all fucked up in the head right now. I started seeing this girl at work for the last few months. She's 28 years old and I'm 29. I really started liking this girl and was thinking she's the one I could have children with and all that good stuff. She hardly goes out, we click really good, talk on the phone for hours, and always spent a lot of time together, she text messages me about 50 times a day, and she is a great piece of ass.

Now our job may change our schedules and we probably won't see each other much like we should. Some people know about our relationship and think we make a nice couple and there are also a lot of haters wanting us to go bad because I got the girl that those other fucks at work wanted.

She's now telling me that the change of hours may affect whether we continue to see each other or not. My heart is killing me thinking about this because I would see this girl once a week for a few hours if thats the only time I could. I still want to be with her but it looks like she doesn't feel the same. I feel that she's not even thinking about putting effort to see each other and now I feel like I was just a piece of ass for her and dropped. She even said if it happens then we could still be friends. I told her I'm not with fucking being friends and if she drops me because of that bullshit then I won't ever be friends with her. Obviously guys its not easy to be friends with someone u have feelings for. WTF do I do guys? Was I wrong in saying that I won't be her friend? Is there anyway to save this relationship? Serious insiteful replies please guys. This shit hurts.

Well if she is willing to end the relationship over a "change of hours" then she doesn't love you, nor even have a high interest level in you. This would not happen if she had a strong interest level in you. Obviously she either no longer looks at a relationship with you as potential, or she never had. You could easily have been "the flavor of the month" in her mind.
It also sounds like she nonchalantly ditched you. Yes, it's over. Even if it isn't yet, it soon will be. If I were you, I'd end it first. She's basically warning you that she's going to do it and expects that a real man would dump her first rather than cling to something when she's making it clear that the end is near.
I'd tell her, "Hey Stephanie, you know it has been fun, but I was giving it some thought and I think that I realized I never really believed that this was "the" one. I think we should just write this off as a fun experience and leave it at that. It was fun though. Later." and end it right there. No need to create a scene or be rude, just be firm and strong. It might hit her later on that "she" was dumped and it might make her want to come back. The ticker is that you can't take her back unless it's just for a "friends with benefits" thing. Never head toward a relationship with her again. I've seen girls who got dumped by a guy that wanted things to work out, so she became all apologetic until he took her back and then she dumped him, just so she can say she was the one to call it off. End it and mean it. She's not the one.

[Zeke's Chaingun]

Originally Posted by Mens Rea

1. You shouldn't talk on the phone for hours.

Correct.

Originally Posted by Mens Rea

2. You shouldn't tell her how you feel.

Correct again.

Originally Posted by Mens Rea

My advice: Tell her that if she wants to leave then she can.
Say, "Honey, take a good look. This is as good as it will ever get for you. Goodbye!"
Then wait for her to call. Do not call her. Date other girls. When she comes back act like nothing happened but never tell her your feelings again. Continue to date other girls.

Disagree here. Most girls don't respond well to arrogance, and saying that you're the best thing since sliced bread may come across as desperate and/or arrogant. It's also very confrontational. And he shouldn't take her back, it's over. IMO she's already committed a dealbreaker, and I never take back an ex unless its for a FWB.

[Zeke's Chaingun]

Originally Posted by Wolfcastle

Thats why you don't fuck chicks you work with. It either ends in a break up or marriage. Neither is particularly apppealing these days.

And afterwards, you have to see them EVERY day.

This is very true. Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't, and sometimes it makes life a LIVING HELL. I had to quit a job once over this BS. Luckily, I was 18 and the job was at Schnucks. No big deal. Working with someone you hate and who hates you can be a lot of unnecessary stress.

[Ezeji]

Ditch the bitch. If something as trivial as a schedule change make her act like this its not worth it.