Please help with female advice!

CRAZYLIFE · 05-23-2007, 07:00 PM

Please don't flame! This a little long so I can hope that you guys stick with me through the whole post! My girlfriend of 11 years recently told me that she does not want to be with me anymore! We have been going through rough times these last few months! The thing is, we stopped speaking and the less I called her, the more she called me. This is devestating because I am still in love with her! Madly in love with her! I will admit that the passion went from a flame to a small spark! There is a guy she is talking to now who served with her cousin that was killed in the military. He is 22 years old and my girlfriend is 28. She insist that there is nothing going on between them and that they are just friends! We still have our cell phones on the same plan an they speak to eachother everyday! She still insists that there is nothing going on. She tells me they are just really good friends! She said she still loves me, but she is not in love with me. I am really hurt and was wondering if there is anything possible I can do to get her back?????
We went out the other night and she was affectionate to me, we were kissing and everything, holding hands! We had a really good time! Then the next day she is disgusted by me! I noticed the, the less attention I give her, the more she calls me! Do you guys think there is something going on between her and this guy! I don't know if I believe her. I really need some tips guys! I have been buying her gifts, telling her how beautiful she is! Just been catering to her every need! I can't live without her, please help! Should I give her space and see if she comes back? Just let her go? What? She said one day she loves me and wants to get back, the next day she sez no! : ( ! Thanks in advance! I need her in my life guys, please give me advice!

Thanks!

Ultrashogun · 05-23-2007, 07:02 PM

I read only the first sentence and here is my advice: find some fresh hot nymphet and fuck her till you dont care anymore.

PariahCarey · 05-23-2007, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Ultrashogun

I read only the first sentence and here is my advice: find some fresh hot nymphet and fuck her till you dont care anymore.

More or less what he said. No communication with her, its over, evolve and move on.

FallenXAngel · 05-23-2007, 07:08 PM

Wow, this is your first post? Man, you can live without her. I just broke up 2-3 weeks ago with my g/f of 3 1/2 years and it was NOT easy, however I knew the relationship was failing because she said exactly the same thing that your girl said: "I love you but I'm not in love with you anymore". This is just a precursor to the bad things that WILL happen. While 11 years is a looooooong time, a relationship should not be based off of games like "if I don't call her, she'll call me more" or vice versa, because that type of shit is juvenile and only functions as a short term fix to a long term problem.

My advice would be to sit down and talk to her about what she wants out of the relationship, if she even wants to be in A relationship with you (or anyone else), and go from there. If you don't talk to her about it, one of two things can happen: 1. She cheats on you with the guy she is "just friends" with. or 2. your games prolong the relationship a little longer then then she cheats on you with the guy she is "just friends" with. Talk to her or just dump her and pick up the pieces, its hard, but I just went through a nearly identical situation to what you described, and I can tell you that it is/was and will be necessary to do the same.

chardog · 05-23-2007, 07:08 PM

your gf has been with you since she was 17 or so; She probably wants to explore other men. Too bad for you because you need to let her go.

She'll either start fucking other guys

or

start fucking other guys and then ask to get back with you.

My advice to you is to stop buying her shit and COMPLETELY IGNORE HER. By the sounds of things, I'd dump her and decide whether or not I would take her back.

Three Gun Fish · 05-23-2007, 07:09 PM

Rule of thumb: If a girl gives you more headaches than head -- time to move on.

FallenXAngel · 05-23-2007, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Three Gun Fish

Rule of thumb: If a girl gives you more headaches than head -- time to move on.

i like that rule

MAILMAN · 05-23-2007, 07:12 PM

move on!!! trust me

FallenXAngel · 05-23-2007, 07:13 PM

Women are worse then guys when it comes to this shit, because no matter how ugly they are, they'll always be someone uglier then them who wants to fuck...and if they are even the least bit curious, they have every opportunity in the world to hop on that pole.

Whereas most men have to work for it. In that regard, we have the shit end of the stick.

Three Gun Fish · 05-23-2007, 07:13 PM

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Originally Posted by FallenXAngel

i like that rule

I've been doin' this awhile.