It's Mother's Day

**Sonny** · 05-13-2007, 02:45 PM

And I haven't spoken to my own mother in almost 2 years. Basically we had a pretty ugly falling out last Christmas after a few years of her pressuring me to disown my father, Ultimately after all those years I had to make the choice to distance myself from her for my own good. We grew apart when she moved away and it seemed that whenever I tried to talk to her she would just bring up my dad and tell me how horrible he was and that I should stay away from him. As a 25 year old man I could see through all the lies that she grew accustomed to telling me as a child. I made the decision for myself.

Still, on days like this I feel guilty for not feeling guilty. But during the shit storm a few years ago, a VERY close friend of mine told me "buddy, at some point you're gonna have to take care of yourself." Hard words to accept for a self proclaimed "mama's boy" but something I truly had to do or else.

Anyways, sorry for the rant.

Blood Python · 05-13-2007, 02:48 PM

That sounds like a pretty rough situation man. I hope things work out for the best.

**Sonny** · 05-13-2007, 02:50 PM

Like I said, if I sat you down and gave you the details you'd understand more. In situations like this it's tough not to single yourself out when in reality a lot of people are estranged from their parent(s).

anaconda · 05-13-2007, 02:51 PM

that sucks man, i wish you all the best...but since youve created distance, you have nothing to lose by reaching out to her. just a friendly note to say hi, or whatever. you dont have to become close to her, but she is your mother after all. you wont regret it.

**Sonny** · 05-13-2007, 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by anaconda

that sucks man, i wish you all the best...but since youve created distance, you have nothing to lose by reaching out to her. just a friendly note to say hi, or whatever. you dont have to become close to her, but she is your mother after all. you wont regret it.

Yeah I hear ya. I just don't feel ready yet. I still send her mother's day gifts, x-mas gifts and birthday gifts. Soon I will reach out again, I'll just set up some ground rules this time around.

Blood Python · 05-13-2007, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Sonny

Yeah I hear ya. I just don't feel ready yet. I still send her mother's day gifts, x-mas gifts and birthday gifts. Soon I will reach out again, I'll just set up some ground rules this time around.

That sounds like a good idea (setting ground rules)

jahred · 05-13-2007, 03:04 PM

my sympathies on the rough situation, hope everything works out in time.

Girljock · 05-13-2007, 04:34 PM

Good for you for having the courage to make an extremely difficult decision. Maybe somewhere down the road your paths will cross again. Best of luck to you.

heathenos · 05-13-2007, 04:46 PM

My sympathies also. I had the same situation, except it was my father who wanted me to not talk to my mother. I havent spoken to my dad in 5 years, and I doubt I'll ever speak to him again. I do feel guilty aswell, but there's only so much a person can do in these situations. It is up to your mother to meet you halfway.

YeahBee · 05-13-2007, 05:28 PM

Mothers day already for you guys huh, for us it is the last Sunday in May