[Ian Coe]

Yeah, I know, another one.

Atleast this one isn't some whiney 'i love her, what do I do' type thread.


So back in oct/nov time I was out at a social and basically chatted up a girl randomly throughout the night. Ended up getting playfully kneed in the balls.
She was cute so I asked her out on the monday, had bf ('that would be grand, but i have a bf') , so I strolled on.

Fast forward to friday. I'm out with same bunch and everyone dressed up. As soon as she walks in she starts chatting with me. Me being me I flirt and we chat etc. As we're walking to the others she just turns around and gets all shy, but under the power of alcohol starts saying how she was so surprised I asked her out ('no ones ever done just walked up to me and asked') and that if she was single she would have gone with me for a drink. So more flirting continues, she states the bf thing several more times and later gets a pen and brands me with her name (lots of woman where doing it....don't ask) and says words to the effect of 'putting my name on my man'. Shortly afterwards she says to me how her and her bf were having problems (after i say 'but you have a bf' after she again states the bf thing).

We all move into the club and she takes me by the hand to join the others. Starts dancing with me, says the bf thing and how she'd be on me if she was single. We hangs around me for a while (i lost track of where she and others were and i turn around and shes within arms reach, looking sort of to the side from me, not the back or starting at me).

Now......randomly another girl that i also had my eye on starts dancing with me when I come back to the dance floor a little later. We're dancing away and she does something, so I point to my cheek for her to kiis it, then the other one...then i put to my lips, being drunk she did it. I just wanted a peck to be cheeky, but alas she pokes her tongue out and off we go.

Original girl sees and although doesn't make a scene or anything just ignores me throughout the rest of the night. At points I propped up the bar and she as there. I did a smile and goofy look but got a cold as ice stare back and her back to me (thought best to leave it). I meet up with others and shes there, so i put down on text how if she were single i would be on her like white on rice and that i don't play that game, she reads it and give me phone back (I ask for number, she replys with 'why', my reply is 'why not' with goofy smile) Girl 2 is about throughout exchange and promptly leads me away (nothing aggressive or anything...just....walks me off in hand)
Suffica to say I went home with her.
As we were queing for coats I got girl 2 to get originals coat ('why do you care'- 'because i'm a nice guy')

But my question is: I'm popping down monday and Original girl might be there (and likely girl 2...who's number i have and sent a few texts to). Now, should I say anything at all to original girl regarding the 'if you were single I'd be on you like white on rice' again or just leave it be. I'm thinking if anything check with her and friend that they got home alright.

I now try not to play the 'i'll go out with him to spite my bf' or 'he's a rebound guy' games. This is partly why I didn't bite....but also to be fair was pretty drunk and looking for some
fun. But fuck me if at heart i'm a nice guy, and the look i was given.....fucking conscience.



Wow, that is a lot of stuff to read through



edit- oh yeah, shes like 19 and I would say for me a 8.5-9. Has a irish accent which just makes things worse.....

[Soulfly]

I just read that whole thing.

She obviously wants your nuts. She obviously got jealous of you when you were with that other girl. She might be playing the "get my boyfriend jealous" card so don't play your game too heavy. Still go ahead and talk to the origional irish accent girl and try to get things moving again.

BUT I would NOT mention anything about what she said to you about being all over you, etc. If you talk about it, she may think that you are holding you to her word or she might think that she has control. You want her FRIENDS to say " You were all over Ian last night, you were cute togeather, etc."

You'll know immedietly how to go about things after you walk into the door and see her.

[Randy Couture 1]

Wow, my advice would be just acknowledge Girl 1, see what she does/say... if the cold shoulder then so be it... but i'd keep in touch with Girl 2, ie texting and maybe a date or two, but i'd just acknowledge the orginial with a hi, wave or wink...

[villasenor]

i think you dont need those kind of girls in your life ian, if she cheats on her BF, she might cheat on you if anything were to happen, sure she's confused, so are you, but chalk it up to bad timing and move the hell on, ohh, and if you see her just say hi, dont act too interested in her, cause then she will treat you like a best friend (and you dont want that trust me, these kind of girls are just trouble, and they yap their mouths off)

[Ian Coe]

Bless you people for reading through all that


Since nov time I haven't acknowledged her at all. I spoke to her friend when she was close and advised her on how to hold pads, but thought better of getting too friendly.

To be honest I avoid girls with bf's, they make my head hurt and usually are too much of a dsitraction. She was pretty much there the whole time friday though, hence it got that far (I distincting remember someones hands (plural) down my underwear, but I can't be certain if it was the irish one).

I am going to keep in contact with girl 2 and not be too quick to assume anything with her (or nothing as the case may be). Shes obviously also cute, hence I ended up going home with her.

I'm at a junction at this time of my life, so I'm trying not to stress over women for the next 6+ months

[Mithra]

I would have fucked the chick with the B/F..just because.

But since you seem like a decent guy, just tell the girl with a B/f that you arn't that type of guy who goes after a girl when she already has a B/F and then give her your number and tell her to call you if/when she is single.

Then go find the girl who IS single and work your magic...

[Skyline21]

Play it cool as a cucumber. DONT make any reference to the "if you were single topic" cos shes not. Its upto her to force the issue here. She knows u want her, she knows u know she wants u. SHES the one with the baggage, so play it cool n enjoy girl 2 n just c wat happens.

[PariahCarey]

Ok Ian...you UK guys don't speak any good English but with the help of some herbal power i got thru what you wrote and these are my commments;

1)Women are dying to be seduced and ALL women are available more or less. The seduction if done right is MORE pleasurable for the seducee then the seducer. So all these notions about "nice guy" have to go. I know from S&P you are a nice guy so be a nice guy and finish this babe off with a ground n pound and maybe a kimura for good measure...

2) Step back from all "white on rice comments" and "boyfriend" commments. Pretend that whole chemistry reaction didn't happen. She tells you about her boyfriend you are sympathetic and somewhat bored by the discussion but have no opionion of your own in that matter...you are there to have a good time...still be your usual nice self but treat all stares and serious dramatic communication with Fedor type humility and bemusement...answer all specific questions she has for you with general statements and a half smirk...be as pubically affectionate with #2 as much or as little as YOU want.Once you get #1 alone put your arms around her and kiss her...she might resist a bit at first but she will respond + (don't go in forcefully of course but go in with no doubt)anytime she gets freaky on you or starts withdrawing go back to having a good time and finding her reactions silly...sometimes you got to set up a shoot with some high strikes and thats what we are doing here only our set-up is defensive in nature in that you are not pursuing actively...

...and no calling to see if they made it home safe...if they didn't you can't do anything about it anyway...save that call for the chix who put out...

[Skyline21]

Originally Posted by Ian Coe

Bless you people for reading through all that


Since nov time I haven't acknowledged her at all. I spoke to her friend when she was close and advised her on how to hold pads, but thought better of getting too friendly.

To be honest I avoid girls with bf's, they make my head hurt and usually are too much of a dsitraction. She was pretty much there the whole time friday though, hence it got that far (I distincting remember someones hands (plural) down my underwear, but I can't be certain if it was the irish one).

I am going to keep in contact with girl 2 and not be too quick to assume anything with her (or nothing as the case may be). Shes obviously also cute, hence I ended up going home with her.

I'm at a junction at this time of my life, so I'm trying not to stress over women for the next 6+ months

+ 1 on the last part dude. Im newly single and plannin on bein single for a few years now. Im only 22, have had a very serious relationship since i was 18, and another fling re-bound type for another 3-4 months after so now im outta that all i wanna do is chill with friends, train, pursue hobbies, travel and most importantly have fun n score chicks one night at a time!

[Ian Coe]

On the side of ignoring her- if the roles were reversed and a girl ignored me I would just stroll on, especially if I had a gf.

I'm not acting if my whole life revolves around going out with her, but wouldn't a normal persons reaction be like i stated. Just trying to get more of a gauage on things


*sits back and waits for statements about women being abnormal*