[GldnGlvsKJ]

Originally Posted by mr_yamamoto

kill your stepdad.

and yes, i'm dead serious.

lol

[ModernWarrior]

Thanks for the advice guys.

[NinjaJuice]

Its time to be a man and talk to him and let him know how he's hurting the family. If he steals money or uses rent/utility money to gamble again. Then beat the shit outta him until he stops. If you cant handle him, you and your brother both beat his worthless ass. If some guy did this shit to my mom, I would've beat his ass already.

[groo]

Originally Posted by ModernWarrior

I'm not looking for sympathy or anything by this thread, I need some advice on what to do.

I lived with my mom for about 13 years before moving away from her to live with my dad. Well I only lived with him for close to 2 years. Things got bad there, fast My parents have been divorced since I was a baby.

Well now my mom has since remarried and I am living with her and my stepdad here in Vegas. The problem is, my stepdad has a gambling problem, and it is destroying the marriage. My stepdad is gone sometimes for 2-5 days at a time, and keeps piling up the debt. It is making my mom's life hell. She had to get a 2nd job to pay debts caused by him. She wasn't able to work there for long because she has a bad back not could not handle the physical stress of two jobs.

I have a younger sister, and I also have an older brother who looks after me, but pretty much stays out of everything else, because he works odd hours and whatnot. The gambling got to a point where my stepdad had stolen my brothers credit-card while he was asleep, and attempted to take all he had. He got off with about a grand. He payed back most of it (not that it helps). My mom wants to leave him, but does not know what to do. As of now he has been gone for like 3 days, and his credit-card company has called the house looking for him.

Money is a big part of why my mom does not leave him. She cannot afford the house we just moved into by herself, and neither can my stepdad if we left him the house. She does not want her credit to be ruined like his is right now due to unpaid loans and such.

Without someone to help her through what she and my family are going through, she keeps looking to me for support. I don't know what she would do without me. She cries at work all the time, and is incredibly stressed at home. She doesn't sleep because she is so stressed. It is getting very hard on myself being only 16 (17 in a week), and giving her support with all these 'adult' problems. Right now I am doing every possible thing that I can to give her one less thing to worry about. She was crying because she thought I would be upset we did not do anything for the fourth of July. I could really care less it is just another day to me, but she was upset.

So I turn to someone else for advice. My fellow sherdoggers. What would you do if you were in my situation, how would you handle. What your advice you would give to your parent if you were in my shoes?

Sell the house.

[ModernWarrior]

Here is a little update on the situation.

Well my stepdad still has not been home. My mom finally got her act together and is leaving. There is an attorney she works with/for who is going to help us sell the house we are in. We found out that my stepdad is on drugs, and really into some shit at his job. Supposedly, a bunch of people at his job were doing some illegal business things and he turned in his boss to the company and she was arrested. He does not want to come home.

My mom called him and left him a message saying she only wants to see him if he is going to A. Sign divorce papers or B. Come get his shit then go.

So far everything is working out well. It is good to see that my mom has finally got some sense and is leaving him. She put a 'halt' on our mail so it is sent to her job and not my house. Due to the reason that he has the only mail key and we need to recieve things. We are possibly going to refinance our house, but I don't really know how all that works. My stepdad's credit cards have been stopped due to his numerous tries to get money from them, all of which failed because he has no money.

Thanks to everyone who gave me advice and I guess in the end things work out somewhat alright. We are still going to have to move if the refinancing does not go as well as it could possibly go. My mom says she has felt better than she ever has in the last 5 years, which is how long she has been seeing him. She is much more happy and is always in a good mood. Which previously was only maybe once every 2 weeks when she would actually be in a slightly better mood than usual, I can't say happy.

Thanks guys again for your advice.

[Legend Killer]

Good luck on your situation. I think your mom made the right decision. I think she'll be wiser next time she's in a relationship.

[tical13]

If shes cute.. She can come stay with me..

[PT447]

just on a side note, as to something you said in your first post that nobody adressed. you said how she was so upset how you guys didn't do anything on the 4th. well, you don't have to understand, but the thing is, especially to moms, sometimes they just needs certain things, a day to go perfectly, to have a "normal" family (whatever the hell that is). you're mom probably just felt terrible that she couldn't provide, what she thought, was a perfect holiday. the only thing you can do at times like that, is give her a hug. moms aren't hard to please, just hug 'em. you sound like a good kid, helping out with her and stuff. sorry you had to deal with all this bullshit, but in the end, it will just add to your character. keep strong, and trust me, hug your mom!

[ModernWarrior]

Thanks for help. I did hug my mom and tell her it alright. I do almost every day, because it does calm her down and she knows that all I want is to help.