[Crazy_horsebeer]

As I get older I find that their is so much more bullshit in the world, how do you find peace within yourself?

Sacraficing yourself for others?
Belief in religion?
Overcoming a tramatic moments in your life?
Finding your soulmate (love)?
Great family?
Success?
Overcoming your fears? like public speaking, dancing, what ever it is
Meditation?
Doing what you love to do for a living?
Some belief that your connected to god?
Knowing your place in the world, job wise, humanitarian wise, etc??


It can go on and on, is it a thought or a beliefs, I would like to know the answer.

[niceguy213]

higher self esteem... know you're better than everyone else without flaunting it

[sarevok]

you left out suicide.

[TheOne]

By finding out what all that war inside you is about. And by examining what is that "you" who is in this war.

[El Tiburon]

Volumes can be written about this topic. I can tell you what works for me. I see these as rules to a healthy living. I came up with these myself and have them written down on a scroll that I keep in my desk.

Rule #1 Don't set unrealistic goals. Things like getting into medical school or getting some particular girl to fall for you can lead to obsessions. By all means follow your dreams, but do it step by step and know when to cut your losses.

Rule #2 Joy and pain are temporary. Don't let yourself get too exited or too down due to things outside of your controll.

Rule #3 Filter the people who are negative, cynnical, deceptive, and needy out of your life.

Rule #4 Find something you can enjoy doing yourself. Kind of a sanctuary from the world (a place where there are no cellphones, no friends, no girls, and preferably costs little to no money) to me it is spearfishing. But play guitar, go hiking, rock climbing, hunting, surfing, buy a camera an instrument, etc.

Rule #5 I realized this the hard way. If you want to keep your friends around for a lifetime. Then drop all expectations of them. They can't hurt you or let you down if your expectations are relaxed.

Rule #6 Forgive but definately don't forget. And when you forgive mean it. It will help you get over things faster.

Rule #7 Sex and Money are not the root of all evil. They are lusts that every man has inside them and can't be ignored. However, greed and pervesion have dire consequenses.

Rule #8 Stand up for yourself when you have been wronged. Everytime you let it slide, people will respect you less and less.

Rule #9 No woman, man, amount of money, place can make you happy. Only you can make yourself happy. It is usually short lived and then life begins again.

Rule #10 (Most Important) There are three things that can never be replaced. They are: Your Body (So protect it at all cost), Your Family (even if you hate her, she is still your mom, even if she humiliated you she is still your daughter, a wife can be replaced though), and your REPUTATION (No matter where you go, your reputation will follow you) so try not to burn too many bridges on your journey.

[Wolfcastle]

I read the thread title and thought this was going to be a shit read. Turns out it is one of the most interesting ones ever posted here. Props to the thread starter.

I can vouch for the above 10 rules. I'm still learning them the hard way. But they have all been true in my event filled personal life so far...

I guess its different in everyone. I'd like to think its how much you grow yourself. Always trying to do the 'right' thing, at least in your mind, no matter how hard it is to do that very thing. Has anything you've done made your life better? Has anything you've done had a positive effect on somebody elses life? Dunno, you got me thinkin' now!

[Jade_Emerald]

By having dreams n hoping they will become real no matter how unrealistic they may be.

[Ultrashogun]

Originally Posted by El Tiburon

Volumes can be written about this topic. I can tell you what works for me. I see these as rules to a healthy living. I came up with these myself and have them written down on a scroll that I keep in my desk.

Rule #1 Don't set unrealistic goals. Things like getting into medical school or getting some particular girl to fall for you can lead to obsessions. By all means follow your dreams, but do it step by step and know when to cut your losses.

Rule #2 Joy and pain are temporary. Don't let yourself get too exited or too down due to things outside of your controll.

Rule #3 Filter the people who are negative, cynnical, deceptive, and needy out of your life.

Rule #4 Find something you can enjoy doing yourself. Kind of a sanctuary from the world (a place where there are no cellphones, no friends, no girls, and preferably costs little to no money) to me it is spearfishing. But play guitar, go hiking, rock climbing, hunting, surfing, buy a camera an instrument, etc.

Rule #5 I realized this the hard way. If you want to keep your friends around for a lifetime. Then drop all expectations of them. They can't hurt you or let you down if your expectations are relaxed.

Rule #6 Forgive but definately don't forget. And when you forgive mean it. It will help you get over things faster.

Rule #7 Sex and Money are not the root of all evil. They are lusts that every man has inside them and can't be ignored. However, greed and pervesion have dire consequenses.

Rule #8 Stand up for yourself when you have been wronged. Everytime you let it slide, people will respect you less and less.

Rule #9 No woman, man, amount of money, place can make you happy. Only you can make yourself happy. It is usually short lived and then life begins again.

Rule #10 (Most Important) There are three things that can never be replaced. They are: Your Body (So protect it at all cost), Your Family (even if you hate her, she is still your mom, even if she humiliated you she is still your daughter, a wife can be replaced though), and your REPUTATION (No matter where you go, your reputation will follow you) so try not to burn too many bridges on your journey.

Great stuff, I live simularly.

However I place strong value on #3 and I dont have anything like #5, which means that I dont really have that many friends. The surprising thing is however, if you knock away all the assholes, there will remain a very few you are really good and on which you can really count on.

Ive got another little rule for life also, no matter how radical, fucked up or unorthodox you or your ideas may seem, stand tall and represent what you think, you will always find allys, but those people that think like you need the support of your strength to stand up when you do.

[1nfinite mind]

good thread and great list you got there tiburon!

[PT447]

accept the world for what it is, accept your place in the world, let go of unatainable goals (sorry folks, not everyone can be anything they want, lets stop lieing to our children!), and be secure in the fact that you have family and friends that care about you, now what you are!

oh, smoking weed helps too, but not for everyone!!!

but seriously.... those 10 rules are really awsome. if those were the 10 comandments, people would be a lot happier and live a lot longer!