Have any of you been blindsided in a relationship?

[Jubacat]

Originally Posted by GOMER113

There was a guy who posted in a thread here a few weeks ago that met his wife while waiting in line at a Chinese food place and they were married within three weeks and they had just celebrated their 25 anniversary, or something like that. Some relationships with fast starts work out, some don't. Glad to hear yours is still going.

Cool story.

I am glad it is working out for me too;)

Looking back on it, we were crazy.

[Depth]

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[2008]

I think warning signs and red flags are there in any relationship but people choose to ignore them or they can't handle the truth.

[Rampage Rua**]

Originally Posted by Depth

My friend met a chick online and they have been happily married for close to 3 years now. It's not how you meet them, but how they act.

yeah i guess being a single guy (23) who's never been in a serious relationship it's kind of hard to grasp this engagment thing that people seem to do

i guess i've been blind-sided before but i don't think i took any of the girls i dated too seriously enough to really notice the bad signs in the first place, except for like 1 girl, which was a breakup of circumstances more than anything

[Jubacat]

Originally Posted by 2008

I think warning signs and red flags are there in any relationship but people choose to ignore them or they can't handle the truth.

And guys tend to not be the best at understanding what/how women communicate.

[Randy Couture 1]

Originally Posted by Depth

You were going along, happy as can be in your relationship, and then one day, your partner breaks up with you, and while all along you thought everything was great. Or maybe you break off the relationship because of some cause?

Worse yet, have you caught your partner cheating or have you found out she did some dirt, like a donkey show, gangbang vid, bukkake, etc. and conveniently forgot to tell you.

I just broke up with a girl not too long ago, because I found out that 1 or 2 one night stands, in reality were really 9 or 10, plus she’s a NYC club girl, and we know how that goes. A mutual female friend is pissed at me for hurting the girl with a sudden and unexpected break up, but you have to have some ground rules as a person. I don’t really feel bad about it at all, withholding information is just as bad as lying in my back.

You should of kicked her to the curb after the first one nighter or at the very least when you found out about them, you need to respect for yourself cos if you don't you think some chick will do it for you? no chance...

Yeah I broke up with an ex back in June found out she was playing her ex lad off against me, and I didn't like the fact I was being played somewhat so she could get the upper hand on her ex, so broke it off... and been dating women where they've called it off without an reason but thats life... for every male there is a world full of beautiful women so why stick with one get you're self out and have fun

[Depth]

Originally Posted by Randy Couture 1

You should of kicked her to the curb after the first one nighter or at the very least when you found out about them, you need to respect for yourself cos if you don't you think some chick will do it for you? no chance...

Yeah I broke up with an ex back in June found out she was playing her ex lad off against me, and I didn't like the fact I was being played somewhat so she could get the upper hand on her ex, so broke it off... and been dating women where they've called it off without an reason but thats life... for every male there is a world full of beautiful women so why stick with one get you're self out and have fun

She had the one night stands when we were not together, this is info she left out when we started seeing each other. Supposedly she did not cheat on me for the few months we were together, but who knows.

But you are right, you should never settle. put some work and time into it and a better girl will be found.

[Hands A Blurr]

tl/dr

[Randy Couture 1]

Originally Posted by Depth

She had the one night stands when we were not together, this is info she left out when we started seeing each other. Supposedly she did not cheat on me for the few months we were together, but who knows.

But you are right, you should never settle. put some work and time into it and a better girl will be found.

Ah right, see she might of said nothing in case you got insecure about it? I dated a lass who'd slept with her brothers best friend who she often would drink with (in a group) she assumed i was insecure about it, and sure I was annoyed she'd held it back, but at the same time if I told her some of the women I've slept with and done I'm sure she'd be insecure (one of them she knew from school who happens to be pretty good in bed)

and yes never ever settle for less, to many men do which is awesome as it leaves more beautiful women waiting for us

[Jim J]

Originally Posted by Depth

She had the one night stands when we were not together, this is info she left out when we started seeing each other. Supposedly she did not cheat on me for the few months we were together, but who knows.

But you are right, you should never settle. put some work and time into it and a better girl will be found.

Did you ask her straight up how many guys she had slept with in the past? If not, why would she bring it up?

If I pick up a girl at a bar, bring her home and stick my weiner in her, I automatically assume it's not the first time she has done something like that. I actually find it quite humorous when some chick tells me how she never does stuff like this after the fact.