Gonna lose mom to lung cancer

[Buckner1986]

God bless to you and your family. As someone who normally posted in the OT I am not used to threads like these, but your story has made me realize how I should cherish the time I spend with my family. Your mother will be in my prayers.

[YeahBee]

The staff were my grandfather spent his last weeks were all great people

He had alzheimers for years but some of those days you could really tell that it was him looking back at you, I wasn't there when he finally passsed, only my grandmother, he had been stable for a couple of days and she was almsot leaving to go home and take care of some stuff when one of the nurses said no wait, and a couple of hours later he died. she was jsut "feeling" it

[Flexwave2003]

This is one of the saddest threads Ive seen on the forum. Im sorry to hear that TS, thats as tough of a situation anyone of us will ever have to deal with in life.

My best.

[Magiblaze]

Sorry to hear about your mother,Hopefully they will make it as easy for her as possible.

[KnockoutsGalore]

I'm really sorry to hear about that, my condolences... I just lost someone I really loved to cancer.... I know how it feels, and I'm really sorry...

[joemalorx]

I really really feel for you man.

I'm going through the same thing with my grandma. She's 74 and was a smoker for 50 yrs. She was recently diagnosed with lung cancer and ****stasis. Now she's always very tired. She used to be really active and uber-independet, now she can't go awake 6 hours straight. We're just waiting for the inevitable.

[NEMMAFan]

My mother passed away last year from lung cancer as well. I'm very sorry to hear about this. Please stay strong brother.

[mtnbyk]

I got a lump in my throat when I read the thread title. I am so sorry to hear that, I still have both of my parents, and don't even want to think about being put in your shoes.

[Phaedrus]

Originally Posted by NeuroNerd

Mom was admitted into home hospice care last Sunday. She was diagnosed in the hospital with Small Cell Lung Cancer. All we really know is she has a very large mass pressing against her lung. She refused a PET and additional CAT scan in order to see if it ****stisized. But it's the docs opinion that it is certainly in her brain because of her confusion.

Home hospice is wonderful. I can't complain at all about the workers. they are caring and compassionate and imo, deserve a special place in heaven. The entire process however is very draining on me.

On Wednesday when the nurse came, she told us mom was "actively dying". She had mottling in her legs and arms. Her hands and feet were like ice. Her toes were blue and her fingers were turning blue. She was hallucinating. She was having 10-15 second apneas and her breathing was very labored, then at night it was very shallow. We were convinced wednesday night was going to be her last because of all the signs. I'll make another thread about the process and euthenasia on another day.

Lo and behold, thursday was the best day she's had in months. She woke up and was bright eyed and bushy tailed all day. She ate well, she was funny, very lucid, and was breathing very well. It was extremely bizarre. I was freaking out a little, cause it does give you a false sense of hope that a miracle is happening.

Today is much of the same. She is very lucid, calm, funny, having a great time. I was a wreck seeing my mother struggle for air and not having the breath to talk, now I'm seeing her talk about getting better and walking around a bit.

Because of these unexpected days with her which were joyful, I think I can let go feeling very good. It's been a real treasure and I know she is much more comfortable than she was a few days prior. Its just hard, because maybe next time she gets bad, I'll hold out a false hope that she might get better. I'm just an emotional wreck right now.

Has anyone experienced hospice with someone?

NeuroNerd,

My heart goes out to you and your family. It makes me sad to hear about what you have written.

[swirldog]

Sorry to hear TS. I'll keep your mom in my thoughts and prayers.