[Steve Dougson]

Alternatively called "The Rag?" or "Steve Dougson Sounds Like He's in High School."

Alright, so I just want to get a bunch of opinions on this matter of mine. I met this chick a couple weeks ago. We have class together on Mondays and Wednesdays. At first I wasn't sure if I really liked her, but then last Monday I was late and some guy I had never seen sat beside her in Dinos (the second of our two classes). Him being there upset me, and so I came to the conclusion I liked this girl.

The next Wednesday things were much better. I wasn't late and I made it to my Stats class since we had an assignment due and so I sat with her. Things went well there, and were even better during Dinos. Afterward she agreed to have lunch with me.

This Monday during Stats she basically ignored me during the class to talk to another one of her female friends. I had thought she was into me, but I figured if she was then she would give me more attention. At the end of this class I suggested we should play Bingo during Dinos crossing out words that we thought the prof would say. She loved the idea.

She loved it alot, and despite being really tired she played along for most of the way. When she gave up she started resting her head on my shoulder. I figured here that maybe she does like me again.

Later that day we had a group study session thing the school organizes and when I was waiting outside the room for this she was waiting around a corner so I didn't see her. When she finally came across me she had a big flooding smile. Fuck, I was certain I was good here.

Fast forward to today, and again pretty much ignored me for her other friend in Stats but then again did so in Dinos as well. I asked her to lunch again, and she agreed to come but there was a little hesistation that I don't know what to make of. I could have just percieved it as a hesitation since I was in kind of a shitty mood about things.

I told one of my buddies about this and he said I was good and that she was probably just having her period. Does her behaviour really sound period-induced?

Anyway, I hate writing this since I feel like I'm the whiny emo kid from high school but I'm really confused about the situation.

[Reyesnuthugr]

I think she's waiting for you to show some sort of possible dis-interrest here or there, to keep them on their toes. This is wierd to alot of guys, but girls don't like being chased constantly. YOu have to give the line a little slack here and there, or else it makes it seem in their heads like you're 'not really that desireable as they thought, or else why would you be chasing them so hard?'

In understandable-to-guys terms: It's kind of like something that you want that you see for sale in a store/on Ebay at an amazing price (like 80% off!). And then you realize that the sale is always on and that you can get it whenever you want/no rush. And then you never go out of your way to get it, because everytime you pass it, it's staring at you with an old 80% off sign gathering dust, and then your mind plays tricks and makes you think maybe something's wrong with it, or that it's not that great in the first place (devalued) and that you can expend your money/time for something more urgent(and excitng), and before you know it you just don't care about the original object enough to go for it

It's like that^^ but much quicker. And it's build into every one of them, I believe

[Steve Dougson]

Yea I agree with you, and I feel I've been pretty good with that. Maybe I could do better.

When I saw the guy with the chick in Dinos I realized trying harder would get me nowhere and that if anything I'd probably have to act more disinterested. A few days later when I saw this guy interact with her while I was around I saw he seemed almost nervous by the way he talked so fast and pretty much skipped his way down the stairs. It was weird and I figured if that was going on my best strategy would have been to be the one who didn't want her.

I appreciate the post.

[VikingRage]

Damn man good story, the Bingo idea is great lol . Next time i get a teacher who uses the same words im going to try that.

I agree with what the 2nd poster said. If you already got her going to lunch with you, stay out of the friendzone , get her number and tell her to hang out with you some night or something.

I have a class with this russian hottie who I thought was cute, turned out I found out I liked her the same way you found out you liked that one chic. Except she sat next to him and when they shared a book they did that "smile" thing back and fourth, so she likes him. Ive only had the balls to go up to her in the library ask for some notes, she didnt seem like she wanted to talk so that kind of sucked. Some other guy who was a total dork who was with her was real intemidated by me going up to her haha . But the guy in my class I can tell she likes, fuk, stupid metrosexual abercrombie ***s.

Worst part was, during our Mid-Term its totally silent and my stomach/ass made all these sounds cuz I had nothing to eat it was embarissing as hell. GG me.

OH! But one time at a random part during the day I walked around the corner and Bam she was there, and we smiled at each other. I have no good times to go up to her and talk to her tho, i had that chance in the library but she seemed to be in a hurry as if I was only slowing her down copying her notes. Damn, I wish I had the balls to just wait for her and be like "Hi, can I walk you to your class im a psycho!" haha

[Steve Dougson]

Well after more developments resulting her basically giving me the cold shoulder and denying conversation attempts (her excuse being she was tired today, which would have been a legitimate excuse had she not been talking like crazy to her friends) I really think that you guys are right. Although I tried not to show my hand and act like I was totally interested in her I must have done so without really knowing. I can see my behavior being inconsistent prior to when that guy sat with her to now.

Anyway, the best strategy is probably to move on at this point. I'm actually taking this better than usual. I still wonder if there's anything I could do though...

The exam break has arrived and I'll most likely not being seeing her till January, so I almost feel like I'll have somewhat of a clean slate when I return.

[valor992]

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Anyway, I hate writing this since I feel like I'm the whiny emo kid from high school but I'm really confused about the situation.[/QUOTE]

Shes giving you every hint in the book...what do you expect for her to jump your bones that would make her feel like a slut...you need to TAKE CHARGE!!! girls like guys to take control and make the first move...as for her ignoring you its probaly bc shes around her friend and doesnt want her friend to think that shes chasing after you...girls dont want there freinds to know if going after a guy...she wants her freinds to think you were the one pursueing her...dont hesitate or she will start looking at you as a friend

[Steve Dougson]

Fuck

[Steve Dougson]

I just logged on Facebook and saw that this girl has changed her status from single to in a relationship which could explains today's events.

Just more motivation to move on and or learn those boyfriend destroyers.

[white_hypeII]

girls can be like that, in that you never know wtf they are thinking

i've had this shit happen to me plenty of times, my advice, forget her, but dont forget the lesson

imo the only things you could have done woulc be to display high value without it seeming like you are bragging THEN when she is ready (you can tell when she starts wanting to get to know the real "you") get her comfortable enought o want to go out with you in private

ie- flirt with hot girls and have her witness it and act like it's no big deal
talk about the cool shit you did over the weekend

somedays don't sit next to her
tease her more
etc etc

you can do all this shit, but make sure she's worth it b/c usually it's easier just to go out and find a new chick

[GrappleGirl]

Grrr...............

Just be yourself and act exactly how you feel like when you are totally yourself. Don't play games. She will either like you for who you are or she won't. Don't worry about what she is thinking.....it is hopeless.