[chardog]

bobby needs to either dump this chick and move on, or marry her. Living in limbo with a kid is pointless. And for the record, I do agree with DrSatanDracula.

Doing it now or doing it later wont change your destiny of a working marriage or not. If bobby assumes that he will marry this girl eventually, then get it done NOW. There will always be a little doubt in any marriage... it's about the leap of faith. I've seen people date for ten years and have a divorce after 1 year of marriage... some people marry in their teens and it lasts until death.

Marriage is good for you're child. Being raised up in a married couple setting is better than not.

[WilmaFingerdo]

TS, get yourself some earplugs and I would start drinking again.

[AdamG]

Originally Posted by DrSatanDracula

Josef Fritzl:



Love < Honour, responsibility, and being a man.

This is one of the stupidest fucking things I've ever read here on Sherdog.

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If indeed this is true:

"Bobbylight's recent life story:
He quit smoking weed and drinking. Shortly after that, his social life become akward and non-existant. To add to that, he began "dating" his boss at the pizza shop. She sometimes ignored him around her friends. Bobbylight asks for advice on his relationship and social situation from sherdoggers. Bobbylight contemplates dumping said girl, quitting his job, telling her to fuck off, etc. Bobbylight then knocks up the girl. Now he is comtemplating marriage with the girl."

First thing to do is get a paternity test. Make sure the child is yours, although, from the way things sound, you are in love and positive it's your baby. It wouldn't hurt to know for sure...

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I've always had the outlook that you fall in love, get married then have kids. You have to know one step is going to work before moving onto another. Right now I'm married, but won't have kids if I think divorce is a possibility.

You've gone and done things out of their traditional order. That doesn't mean that things won't work in the long run, but you can avoid fucking up the long run. What it means is that you should consider whether or not rearing a child together is going to work before you get married. If things work out, why not? But, rearing a child and living together is going to tell you a lot about what married life with this woman is all about.

That all being said, what's the worst that could happen if the relationship doesn't work out? You both eventually move on and make your own families? This child might have to live with the inconvenience of not seeing one of you as much as he/she may like, but that beats living with two people who don't care for one another.

Divorce is probably more traumatic for a child to go through than having two families.

[chardog]

Originally Posted by AdamG

This is one of the stupidest fucking things I've ever read here on Sherdog.

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If indeed this is true:

"Bobbylight's recent life story:
He quit smoking weed and drinking. Shortly after that, his social life become akward and non-existant. To add to that, he began "dating" his boss at the pizza shop. She sometimes ignored him around her friends. Bobbylight asks for advice on his relationship and social situation from sherdoggers. Bobbylight contemplates dumping said girl, quitting his job, telling her to fuck off, etc. Bobbylight then knocks up the girl. Now he is comtemplating marriage with the girl."

First thing to do is get a paternity test. Make sure the child is yours, although, from the way things sound, you are in love and positive it's your baby. It wouldn't hurt to know for sure...

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I've always had the outlook that you fall in love, get married then have kids. You have to know one step is going to work before moving onto another. Right now I'm married, but won't have kids if I think divorce is a possibility.

You've gone and done things out of their traditional order. That doesn't mean that things won't work in the long run, but you can avoid fucking up the long run. What it means is that you should consider whether or not rearing a child together is going to work before you get married. If things work out, why not? But, rearing a child and living together is going to tell you a lot about what married life with this woman is all about.

That all being said, what's the worst that could happen if the relationship doesn't work out? You both eventually move on and make your own families? This child might have to live with the inconvenience of not seeing one of you as much as he/she may like, but that beats living with two people who don't care for one another.

Divorce is probably more traumatic for a child to go through than having two families.

why do you bring up divorce?

Bobby has already mentioned that he wants to marry this chick... he should do it. Most people that live together and dont marry, break up. Divorce is not what hurts the child, the breakup is what hurts the child. Marriage is a failure in america because we have fucked up cultures, and fucked up people. Pre-Marital cohabitation is probably the worst misconceptions of our current culture.

The whole theory goes: if things work out, then good, if not, I'm gonna bail. That has NOTHING to do with what marriage is supposed to be. That is the opposite of marriage.

[DrBdan]

Originally Posted by DrSatanDracula

It's a very telling rejection. When you marry a woman you make her family. You make your son or daughter family, too. When you aren't married to the mother, you're making a pretty big point of rejecting her and her offspring through you. This is the entire concept of illegitimate children.

I fail to see how your son/daughter is not your family if you don't marry the mother. I'm pretty sure the child counts as your family, since you were responsible for creating him/her. Also, why do you refer to the child are her offspring? It is their child and both the father and mother are responsible for the child, whether or not they are married. The only way I see that you would be rejecting the child is by not being involved in the child's life, and there are plenty of married people that are terrible parents.

[w0cyru01]

Did I miss the thread where he knocked her up or is this it?

All of the threads are like trainwrecks which lead me to believe they aren't real. Nevertheless they entertain me.

As the pizza world turns...

[WrestlingNerd]

Originally Posted by AdamG

This is one of the stupidest fucking things I've ever read here on Sherdog.

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First thing to do is get a paternity test. Make sure the child is yours, although, from the way things sound, you are in love and positive it's your baby. It wouldn't hurt to know for sure...

Get the test man.

[thoughtsone]

Originally Posted by chardog

why do you bring up divorce?

Bobby has already mentioned that he wants to marry this chick... he should do it. Most people that live together and dont marry, break up. Divorce is not what hurts the child, the breakup is what hurts the child. Marriage is a failure in america because we have fucked up cultures, and fucked up people. Pre-Marital cohabitation is probably the worst misconceptions of our current culture.

The whole theory goes: if things work out, then good, if not, I'm gonna bail. That has NOTHING to do with what marriage is supposed to be. That is the opposite of marriage.

He brings up divorce because it has to be thought about in todays culture. Also there are 2 people in the relationship not just Bobby. Also this chick has a history of looking down on him, ignoring him, demeaning him etc... Calling him out for making less then her or something like that. Those are tells that the relationship is going to fail and a kid is not going to save it. Sure he says he loves her and is going to get married but not 3 months ago he was saying he should dump her. The whole context of the scenario screams either infidelity, stupidity or misguidedness.

[irc]

Originally Posted by DrSatanDracula

Yeahbee:



It's a very telling rejection. When you marry a woman you make her family. You make your son or daughter family, too. When you aren't married to the mother, you're making a pretty big point of rejecting her and her offspring through you. This is the entire concept of illegitimate children.

Moreover, it is highly doubtful that he is going to take care of and love his woman if he isn't going to man up and marry her. Any relationship with a woman you won't marry after you impregnate you likely think you are "not ready" and therefore things start getting put off and off...and poof. It's gone.

A man lives by integrity. That's how you go about things.

Oh God. Please, shoot self in head.

[Divatologist]

I would be embarassed to get married to while shes pregnant, it makes it seem as if you were rushing into even more things . Like you said you arent fooling anybody and if you decide to get married later it would be a much better route imo