getting married just because you conceived a child out of wedlock..... - Page 21

cmburns · 05-14-2008, 03:10 AM

I disagree.

Or, I would say that you are 1000x more ready at 35 then you are at 20.

Ham_Roll · 05-14-2008, 03:12 AM

I have a son but me and my partner are not married she wants to get married but im not into it, reasons are i hate the church i know i can do it without a priest but still. I jus dont believe in it i know i will stay with her forever and if she really wants i will end up married but it jus seems like a hassle

Ham_Roll · 05-14-2008, 03:15 AM

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Originally Posted by cmburns

I disagree.

Or, I would say that you are 1000x more ready at 35 then you are at 20.

I had a boy recently im 23 and at the labour class's there were all this old guys like 40 plus, so when there kid is 20 they will be 60 plus i find that disturbing. You can never be ready for a child but somehow most of us find a way

cmburns · 05-14-2008, 03:18 AM

So you believe that you should have kids young regardless of how good a parent you could be? Just to avoid being old when they are 20?

cmburns · 05-14-2008, 03:27 AM

You can definately be ready for a child.

1. Having a good job with decent pay that you can rely on.

2. Have a good partner that you KNOW you will stay with for the long run.

3. Have the life experience, patience and dedication to raise a child properly.

4. You've figured out all your problems that could of been passed down to your kids at 20 but won't now that you're 30 and more emotionally stable.

5. Realize that having kids is a HUGE responsibility and sacrifice, you must always put your kids first. No room for selfishness.

So there are some things you can to do be ready for kids.

Ham_Roll · 05-14-2008, 03:41 AM

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Originally Posted by cmburns

You can definately be ready for a child.

1. Having a good job with decent pay that you can rely on.

2. Have a good partner that you KNOW you will stay with for the long run.

3. Have the life experience, patience and dedication to raise a child properly.

4. You've figured out all your problems that could of been passed down to your kids at 20 but won't now that you're 30 and more emotionally stable.

5. Realize that having kids is a HUGE responsibility and sacrifice, you must always put your kids first. No room for selfishness.

So there are some things you can to do be ready for kids.

No you can think your ready but there is alot more to parenting then being secure at home and work. Childbirth and the first 6 months is a emotional roller coaster and no matter how much you prepare you can never be ready for the highs and lows.