[rygrad]

It really all depends on how you view YOUR moral obligations to the situation. unless you are a minor, all your parents can do is give you advice. Certainly you don't want to piss your parents off, but why ruin your life, your gf's life, and the kids life because your parents are embarrassed?

Think it through, talk with the girl, and come to a mutual decision.

Also, consider abortion, or adoption if its a late term pregnancy.

[harrdcor]

sometimes thats a really bad idea. some thing happened to my friend, and hes been miserable.

[DrSatanDracula]

Man the hell up.

Marry the woman you knocked up, Bobbylight.

Seriously. It's called the honest and responsible thing to do. Regardless of whether it is a "social norm" or not. You impregnated a woman. Fucking marry her like it is proper to do so.

The entire idea behind marrying before the baby is given birth to is because it is the responsible thing to do. Who cares if people will "know it"? It speaks of your integrity, responsiblity, and love for the mother of your child and the child to be born.

Stop dicking around. This is a man's way.

By the way: If you've all ready impregnated the woman, don't you think you're in it deep enough to get married? There is no excuse. Get married. It is a shame against you, your woman, your child, and your family if you do not.

Man the hell up.

[YeahBee]

^^^^ what the fuck?

As long as he he provides for the child and is a good fahter then so what if he ain't amrried?

you live in Talibanstan or what?

[DrSatanDracula]

Yeahbee:

As long as he he provides for the child and is a good fahter then so what if he ain't amrried?

It's a very telling rejection. When you marry a woman you make her family. You make your son or daughter family, too. When you aren't married to the mother, you're making a pretty big point of rejecting her and her offspring through you. This is the entire concept of illegitimate children.

Moreover, it is highly doubtful that he is going to take care of and love his woman if he isn't going to man up and marry her. Any relationship with a woman you won't marry after you impregnate you likely think you are "not ready" and therefore things start getting put off and off...and poof. It's gone.

A man lives by integrity. That's how you go about things.

[WrestlingNerd]

Originally Posted by Oeshon

Have you considered abortion. (serious question)

Yeah I'd try that idea first.

Even if you don't marry her she's still gonna get like 30% of your paycheck. The thing is do you want yourself to be happy or your kid happy if abortion is not an option? If the marriage is crap and it's clear mommy and daddy don't love each other and well it's the kids fault then that might not be too good for the kid either.

[DrSatanDracula]

Now you guys are seriously suggesting he murder his child.

Get fucking real, guys.

"Oh, I think I shall go and kill my child because I was irresponsible enough to knock up my woman and I don't want to have to live with my choices and man up to my responsibility to her and to the child to be born."

That's disgusting.

[bobbylight]

Originally Posted by Oeshon

Have you considered abortion. (serious question)

Its not an option. My girl and I don't believe in it, and we do have the means to care for this baby and bring it up right. We aren't in high school or anything. We will both be 22 by the time the baby is born.

[DrSatanDracula]

Listen my man and listen well:

The superior man strives for excellence in all his actions. Part of excellence is integrity, responsibility, respect, and loyalty, especially to someone who you are now going to have a child with.

If you want to live up to what you ought to be, you need to do the right thing, not the easy thing. Marrying this woman now while you have the time is a big statement on who you are deep down. Do you want to be known as a guy who doesn't even respect his child enough to say "this is my child, this is my woman, they are mine, and this is the bond I make before my family, friends, and society itself to affirm this"?

Do the right thing.

[Josef Fritzl]

Originally Posted by bobbylight

Its not an option. My girl and I don't believe in it, and we do have the means to care for this baby and bring it up right. We aren't in high school or anything. We will both be 22 by the time the baby is born.

trust me it exists it is a good option you doint want too marry this chick you doint love her

it would be dumb too bring a child into that envoroment