Interesting Girl Dilemma

bigred1mil · 07-03-2006, 01:13 PM

OK so here's the thing. My GF of a year and a half and I are taking a "break" while shes studying overseas. The relationship was getting kinda stale so we figured this would be a good time to be able to have some freedom. Now, shes been gone for two weeks and I just turned 21 so I'm having a good time being single for now.

I'm interested in meeting new girls and hooking up or whatever but I'm nervous about going on a one-on-one date. I got a cute girl's number two nights ago and wondering if I should call her and set something up. Of course I'd like to hook up with her but I wonder what if we get to talking and I actually like her? I'm really not looking for any kind of relationship right now, how could I pull off somehow meeting up with this girl and maybe just hook up and stop calling her or something? Kinda sounds like an evil plan to me but I've always been the guy with the girlfriend and it would be nice to have a one night stand for once.

Okay mayberry pimps, fire away!

n2bateyou · 07-03-2006, 01:19 PM

You should have gone to the OT for this kind of advice. Thats where you can get good instruction.

bigred1mil · 07-03-2006, 01:21 PM

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Originally Posted by n2bateyou

You should have gone to the OT for this kind of advice. Thats where you can get good instruction.

Or better yet, the local middle school.

Igorot Warrior · 07-03-2006, 04:47 PM

Hookin' up is fine...just tell her upfront that you just want to use her for sex...be upfront and honest with her. It might ruin your chances of getting laid...but I think it's the right thing to do. There is nothing wrong with having sex with someone you don't love...or don't plan on loving (it's just like that one line from a Merle Haggard song..."I don't have to worry about whose she's had...it's not love...but it's not bad.").

Oh yeah...use a condom.

lizard1 · 05:01 PM

Don't tell her you want just sex. Just tell her you are not yet looking for a serious relationship.
That way, she might try and tempt you with sex, then after you can just say "I said I did not want a relationship".

But really, I can't condone shagging around. Just stick with one girl (if you need a break so you can fuck around, and so your missus can go and get a fuck, you may aswell end it). I don't think I like the idea of some other bloke being inside my missus. You may be a bit more liberal with this sort of thing, but I'd never look at her the same if she did that since us first getting together.

End it and find someone who does it for you.

bigred1mil · 07-03-2006, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Igorot Warrior

Hookin' up is fine...just tell her upfront that you just want to use her for sex...be upfront and honest with her. It might ruin your chances of getting laid...but I think it's the right thing to do. There is nothing wrong with having sex with someone you don't love...or don't plan on loving (it's just like that one line from a Merle Haggard song..."I don't have to worry about whose she's had...it's not love...but it's not bad.").

Oh yeah...use a condom.

While I agree with there not being anything wrong with it, I don't have a lot of faith in this approach. Thanks for your two cents though.

bigred1mil · 07-03-2006, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by lizard1

Don't tell her you want just sex. Just tell her you are not yet looking for a serious relationship.
That way, she might try and tempt you with sex, then after you can just say "I said I did not want a relationship".

But really, I can't condone shagging around. Just stick with one girl (if you need a break so you can fuck around, and so your missus can go and get a fuck, you may aswell end it). I don't think I like the idea of some other bloke being inside my missus. You may be a bit more liberal with this sort of thing, but I'd never look at her the same if she did that since us first getting together.

End it and find someone who does it for you.

I think the simple fact that I'm really not worried about what shes doing overseas is a sign for me that maybe it should end. We'll see how it all pans out though. I doubt shes really even doin anything let alone getting laid just because the kind of girl she is, but then again sometimes you never know.

Mens Rea · 07-03-2006, 06:23 PM

You shouldn't have a steady gf until you're 25.

dental133 · 07-03-2006, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by bigred1mil

My GF of a year and a half and I are taking a "break" while shes studying overseas. The relationship was getting kinda stale so we figured this would be a good time to be able to have some freedom.

You just got tooled my friend. Girls say "lets take a break" when they want to slut around, especially when they're overseas and want new dick. You just fell for it. It's easy for her to go over there and bang a new guy every night. For you, you gotta work for it. So who is this arrangement good for?

Dump her. And dont fool yourself into thinking this is a mutual decision as you're suggesting in your post. If you were sick of her, you would have dumped her outright. Since she's "on vacation" and wants to whore around, she talked you into thinking you mutually want "a break" or "freedom".

She did this so that when she gets back from vacation she'll have you waiting around to get back with. She put you on ice while she's banging every guy in her new town on break. You're sitting by the phone waiting for her to return.

bigred1mil · 07-03-2006, 06:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Mens Rea

You shouldn't have a steady gf until you're 25.

Honestly starting to see this now. I always have more fun when I'm single I think maybe in the past I've been to dependent on relationships for support.