[Nihilistic]

Originally Posted by TheWalrus

sounds like a post relationship break up booty call. no? try online white pages for the area? they usually got people finders in them

nah its just an old friend from back in the day, we kept in touch when she first moved out west and went to Jasper Alberta, but now I believe shes in BC with her bf but haven't talked to her in about 2-3 years. Had a dream about us hanging out back in the day the other night which is what made me think I should get ahold of her and see whats crackin

[stu3ufc]

Originally Posted by El Tiburon

People come and go in life. She apparently has moved on and has put no energy into maintaining contact and/or starting a new line of communication.

My advice is to let her go. If it were a guy then things would be somewhat different. Guy friends can pick right up from where the left off even after a few years. There is a lot of truth to Greek Philiosphy where it is stated that there is no greater love than that of brothers. The same can not be said about sisters.

I have a chick in the back of my mind that I may never get over. I severed ties with her recently after having a very memorable time here in Hawaii 2 years ago. The contact became very sporatic and I noticed that she was not putting any energy into maintaining a healthy line of communication. Finally, I get a breakthrough, she responds to my repeated attempts and then reality kicks in. She told me that she was involved with someone else. I was amounting to nothing more than an annoying clinger/lingerer. I certainly did not want to hear her tell me how great this guy is in bed. Therefore, I said Adieu to her and accepted the reality that i had to let her go. Guys can stay with no problems but unfortunately girls go. when you chase them it just pushes them away more.

Sorry bro find another pretty face to chase.Mahalo

a very good post

[Nihilistic]

Originally Posted by El Tiburon

People come and go in life. She apparently has moved on and has put no energy into maintaining contact and/or starting a new line of communication.

My advice is to let her go. If it were a guy then things would be somewhat different. Guy friends can pick right up from where the left off even after a few years. There is a lot of truth to Greek Philiosphy where it is stated that there is no greater love than that of brothers. The same can not be said about sisters.

I have a chick in the back of my mind that I may never get over. I severed ties with her recently after having a very memorable time here in Hawaii 2 years ago. The contact became very sporatic and I noticed that she was not putting any energy into maintaining a healthy line of communication. Finally, I get a breakthrough, she responds to my repeated attempts and then reality kicks in. She told me that she was involved with someone else. I was amounting to nothing more than an annoying clinger/lingerer. I certainly did not want to hear her tell me how great this guy is in bed. Therefore, I said Adieu to her and accepted the reality that i had to let her go. Guys can stay with no problems but unfortunately girls go. when you chase them it just pushes them away more.

Sorry bro find another pretty face to chase.

Mahalo

Ya she was one of the boys which is why i miss her so much. "Man with tits" thats what we used to refer to her as. she was awesome. she was my best friend out here and its actually my fault we arent talking as i got "to busy" for everyone a couple years ago. lost touch with alot of friends

[Nihilistic]

Originally Posted by Systemanoob

I'm not witty or clever enough to get your attention, but pipl.com found my dad on the internet and he doesn't have a myspace or anything (he's not even in the phonebook).

If that doesn't work I saw There's something about Mary and a PI gave Ben Stiller fine results.

GREAT site, I found a couple possible ones thanks man!

[El Tiburon]

Originally Posted by Nihilistic

Ya she was one of the boys which is why i miss her so much. "Man with tits" thats what we used to refer to her as. she was awesome. she was my best friend out here and its actually my fault we arent talking as i got "to busy" for everyone a couple years ago. lost touch with alot of friends

If that was the case then she just replaced her old guy friends with new guy friends. Up to her old tricks.

[Mrs Biohazard]

Originally Posted by El Tiburon

People come and go in life. She apparently has moved on and has put no energy into maintaining contact and/or starting a new line of communication.

My advice is to let her go. If it were a guy then things would be somewhat different. Guy friends can pick right up from where the left off even after a few years. There is a lot of truth to Greek Philiosphy where it is stated that there is no greater love than that of brothers. The same can not be said about sisters.

I agree with the moving on, but personally, I can pick-up with a friendship with either a guy or a girl after years of being apart. I just recently did it with a few of my friends that I knew in high school after I got off active duty. And I keep in touch with a guy friend of mine in the Navy...we don't talk everyday (we each have our own lives), but we were good enough friends to still be able to keep in touch and see each other when we are both in town at the same time.

[El Tiburon]

Originally Posted by Mrs Biohazard

I agree with the moving on, but personally, I can pick-up with a friendship with either a guy or a girl after years of being apart. I just recently did it with a few of my friends that I knew in high school after I got off active duty. And I keep in touch with a guy friend of mine in the Navy...we don't talk everyday (we each have our own lives), but we were good enough friends to still be able to keep in touch and see each other when we are both in town at the same time.

With a brother to brother friendship it is much easier to reconnect. Maybe because he knows that the other does not want to screw him (Assuming they both are hetero). However, with a chick there are other factors that keep a bond from forming or re-forming. things like her new bunch of buddies, husbands, boyfriends, even her female friends that are posessive of her. After a couple years maybe you/she or both are not as innocent as you were when you knew eachother first.

You also said the magic words. That "We were good enough friends to still be able to keep in touch." Not that you lost touch and one is seeking out the lost friend. Apparently you and he made an effort to keep the lines of communication alive. That preserved the friendship. However had one shut out the other. I seriously doubt that the friendship would have been resurected.

[Estemachine]

I have lost complete touch with all of my friends up to the age of 16, and with many others from 16 to now that I am 23. To this point of my life I get comfortable with the amount of friends I have at the time, they mostly come and go and only a handful stays.

[Mrs Biohazard]

Originally Posted by El Tiburon

You also said the magic words. That "We were good enough friends to still be able to keep in touch." Not that you lost touch and one is seeking out the lost friend. Apparently you and he made an effort to keep the lines of communication alive. That preserved the friendship. However had one shut out the other. I seriously doubt that the friendship would have been resurected.

I still disagree. It all depends on the female...and I have had really great guy friends that cut off the friendship due to a girl they were dating, that did not like our friendship. It is all up to the individual...but I do agree with you saying to move on.

[omgitsrick]

You should definitely move on, make a new friend instead of going through the effort to find an old one.