[wildcard_seven]

You should be like all these guys. Unchangeable rogues who would never bend for a woman.

[fibonacci_guy]

Man you just need to decide whats more important. Training 5 days a week sounds like you are taking it seriously and eventually want to fight. Your saying she won't let you which is a dilemma. Have you ever thought what will happen when yall have kids? You will be lucky if you get 1 day to train. Marrying is a life altering thing. Make sure you are 100% sure. And yeah, some fight seminar will come around again, so don't sweat this one.

[Zvengeance]

Originally Posted by Teknik

This relationship sounds doomed from the start. You want to spend all your time/money training. She gives you a certain amount of slack to do what you want. Then what do you do? You want to spend even more time and money on it. All the while she sits at home, broke, and borred while you're out having fun. You just have to ask what's more important. Training all the time. Or training some for fun, spending time with her, saving money, and starting a life with her.

pretty much to the point right there. does the ts even have a job?

is great you wan to be an mma fighter but you have to realize that this is like any other sport. the chances of u ever ending up like a chuck, randy or fedor are slim to none.

if you want to feed your mma career at least get a job then she wont complain.

[Garlic Breath]

Hey TS, I'm scatching my head -- hate to burst your bubble pal, but at your age it's kind of nil chance to be a reknowned MMA fighter - unless you're a physical specimen, but somehow I doubt that and think you're a regualr joe with average talents.

Give it up bro, man to man, that's my advice.

Train as a hobby and get a job. If you don't have a degree, you made a big mistake .. go back to college.

[NMZia]

I'm a chick and I would go if it were me. My bf and I have both done things like this where we spent money we didn't have and the other picked up a little on the bills because we knew how much it meant to be able to do whatever it was. My bf knows how much fighting and training means to me, and he would never think of telling me not to fight. If a person truly loves you, they will accept that you need to fight to be happy and see if that is what you want to do with life.
and on to the other issue, I'm from a military family, so this may be a different perspective. "Special" days are just another day. My bf and I have never celebrated valentines day or either birthday on its true day, its the thought and the time spent that matters.

[Garlic Breath]

Originally Posted by NMZia

I'm a chick and I would go if it were me. My bf and I have both done things like this where we spent money we didn't have and the other picked up a little on the bills because we knew how much it meant to be able to do whatever it was. My bf knows how much fighting and training means to me, and he would never think of telling me not to fight. If a person truly loves you, they will accept that you need to fight to be happy and see if that is what you want to do with life.
and on to the other issue, I'm from a military family, so this may be a different perspective. "Special" days are just another day. My bf and I have never celebrated valentines day or either birthday on its true day, its the thought and the time spent that matters.

Seriously, women shouldn't fight, it's absurd.

Why a woman would want to have scar tissue, cauliflowers ears, and injury is beyond me ... you're a woman, men like attractive and feminine women.

What's the world coming to !

[Scarface]

Do plan on being a father or a dad to your future kids??
there is a big difference.
I was on a similar path up until I got married and had children. I deided that I was going to be there to watch my kids grow up. I miss training MMA and BJJ like I used to, but I don't regret missing out on it.
I can die an old man and be proud of myself for being there for my wife and kids, not missing their first steps, first words, interacting with them and watching them grow, physically and emotionally.

My brother chose to be in the USMC, and lives three hours away from his wife and kid. He goes home saturday afternoon to see his family and leaves back to his apartment(located in the city in which he is a recruiter) on Sunday afternoon.
He sees his family once a week.
I see mine every day.
If you have the intelligence to go to college, do so and put MMA training on the backburner. The true chances of making it depend on your talent. IF you are of that caliber, best of luck to you.
IF you want to be the kind of dad that can remember the little things about their kids' childhood, if you want to have a positive influence/impact on your child(ren) from the beginning, I suggest you try to be there for them.
My wife never, and I mean never, stops me from doing the things I want like fishing and stuff. However, marriage and its inherent responsibilities will slowly change your list of priorities and frequency of hobbies.

Good luck, and I pray that you are not as stubborn as I used to be.

Advice: know which battles to fight and which battles to avoid.

[jdm_boy]

sorry, never experienced being broke as an adult. can't relate

[Dane Bramage]

Guys, I think the OP knows what the right thing to do was...buying the house wasn't his big problem and being in the relationship wasn't his problem either...

He just wanted to vent some fucking frustration with having to choose between MMA and pleasing the gf.

If you have ever been in a relationship with another human being, you'll have to give up something. You don't go to a relationship to get get get.

You will be faced with situations where you could do what you want or do what you have to do. It can be really frustrating, because you'll be thinking back to the days where you were single or the days where you had less responsibility (i.e. paying rent instead of a mortgage)

Fuck all these guys that say, "Don't let a woman dictate your life, drop her." That's not the case, and this whole 'the girl is holding you back' sounds like insecurity.

[Richard Emling]

prioritys man wifes come and go a camp like that is once in a life time