[Will_N.O.]

Originally Posted by nbo10

If you can't spend a few hours in the gym a couple nights a week something is wrong and you need to get out of the relationship.

+1

Since the OP asked about how other people make it work:
I train BJJ M/W/Sat

M & W I go to work early so I can get home early and play with my daughter, which also gives my wife time to go for a walk, do yoga, take a nap, or whatever she wants. I leave for BJJ at 6:30 and am back by 8:45, which gives me more time with my daughter for bedtime routine (bath time, read stories, etc). This works out great for us, gives both my wife and I time for our own thing and focused time with our kid.

Sat I go to beginner class at 11 and usually back for competition class (takedowns) at 2. Frequently there is something like a birthday party for one of my daughter's classmates during the middle of the day, otherwise my wife will usually run some errands with the girl while I'm at the gym. Either way I spend some time with my daughter in the afternoon doing something fun (zoo, swimming, etc) so my wife can catch a mega-nap.

Like many of the other posters said, it's all about balance. There is a no-gi class at my gym on Fridays that would be fun to do, but I figure 3-4 times a week is enough for a hobby and so I choose to spend Friday nights with my family.

If you can't find any way to make 2-3 times a week work, there's some kind of problem. Even if you weren't doing BJJ, you'd still want to run or lift of something three times a week or you'd get fat and gross, right? There has to be time for exercise in a healthy relationship.

[Trickster]

When I was at the GQ this weekend I was looking at all the girls thinking to myself...this is a great place to meet a girl bc you know she is cool with her man training BJJ! =)

[son_goku]

I work full time, train 4 times per week [2 hours each session], and am an avid bike rider on the weekends... Girlfriend/wife/kids is completely out of the question for the time being!

[polecat]

I split up with my Ex becasue she used to hassle me sooo much about training BJJ. So when my current came along the one of the first things a said to her was dont give me shit about training!!

It worked for the first year....

[Tiger Uppercut]

Originally Posted by nbo10

If you can't spend a few hours in the gym a couple nights a week something is wrong and you need to get out of the relationship.

that's what i'm saying.

My gf busts chops, but my classes are 1 hr instruction and anywhere from 20-90 minutes of grappling. She works out at the gym in the mean time. Healthy lifestyles are important, makes the overall relationship better (wink, wink). Only way its an issue is if the gf is lazy and has nothing recreational to occupy their time. Just expect u to come home and....u know, just be there?

the key for me is as others have mentioned. I train 2-4 days during the week, along with weight training and keep the weekends available for us to hang. I don't even bother making plans Saturday and Sunday, pretty much do whatever she wants to do. whatever

[Bill_Carson]

I train 3-4 nights a week and work at my gym. My wife is cool with it. Actually, when we were on our Honeymoon, in Maui, I trained at Maui BJJ and she watched and took pics.

Lucky me.

[nyne]

I'm married. I train weights at lunch and bjj after work for 2 hours roughly. It turns into about 24 hours a week total plus my 40 hour a week job. My wife works in the afternoon so the time that I'm training doesn't overlap much with her work hours.

Make sure your significant other isn't just sitting around the house bored and pissed off while you are out training. Make sure she's either working or has a hobby --and isn't kickin it with John Redcorn while you're out practicing armlocks. ;)

[Mikey Triangles]

my girlfriend trains more than i do. problem solved

[UWCyclist]

Combine working full time, school full time, road racing and judo/bjj, i dont know how i make it work with my girlfriend. WE'll see i guess, haha.

[BCarr]

I was doing this when I met my wife, so she's accepted it the entire time. Hell, since I hury my knee, when I get home from class on the weekends, she has her bikini on and is saying, "OK, fucko...time to hit the pool."

But it is give and take. Last night, I went home after class and we painted a table, cleaned all the rabbits' litter boxes, and cleaned the dining room. Chores gotta get done, too.