[OwMyArm]

I think you should become a superhero and use your super-rage to defeat villains.

[OwMyArm]

Originally Posted by ForeverFiending

Yea, I think you should definately go find someone to discuss these feelings with (aka shrink) so that you can understand yourself better/ deal with it better.

No, you DO NOT allow yourself to "snap" sparring. Losing control is NOT a desired trait in a fighter. If you do it, you will get your ass kicked out of every gym. It is NOT personal. Your idiot friend will get his in sparring. Guys who spar like assholes get treated like assholes by better fighters eventually. This sounds like it has very little to do with HIM and everything to do with YOU. NO, you should NOT want to have control over your demon and let him out sometimes. Your "demon" you are talking about IS your enemy. There is nothing good about that feeling that you claim feels good. What REALLY feels good is knowing you have the ability to defend yourself and complete control of who you are and what you're doing. I'm sorry to hear that you have been in situations of life or death, that is tough and it's good you made it through, but that is the past. Require more from yourself... and if you can't get a grip than consider leaving the gym until you do. It's funny how all kinds of crazy inner stuff surfaces in the ring... lol

capitalizing RANDOM words makes YOUR post really EFFECTIVE.

[Stand-Up!]

MMA is a sport. Once you start fighting with your emotions and not your head, you lose your gameplan. You can either stand with a guy and think,"Ohh, I'm gonna knock his face off", or you can take the winning approach and think to yourself, "Ok, he's throwing the same combo's and leaving himself open for a hook after the third punch". Now which sounds like the better strategy?

[ForeverFiending]

Originally Posted by OwMyArm

capitalizing RANDOM words makes YOUR post really EFFECTIVE.

Almost as effective as YOUR childish advice.

No bother... it's little things like your signature that help me seperate the boys from the men.

[foofie]

Seek proffesional help , go see a psychologist and a psychiatryst . Consult your life , and see what you might be doing wrong in it .

No offense , but its guys like you that are likely to go "pop" one day and do something they would never do consciously .

I would not say you are necessarily agressive , but you are rather - emotionless - in certain situations . For example , when you are drunk / stoned , do you do agressive stuff ? Do you throw your friends around or something ? I think its less likely , but then again I dont know you well and cant judge it . If you do agressive stuff when drunk , then its a problem with agressivity , but I dont think it is - you dont seem to be the "agressive" guy , are you often anxious ? Have problems in school ? Bad behaviour ? Unpatient ? Are you more one of those above , than most people ?

My opinion - avoid the snap , but eventually one day you will not be able to avoid it . You need to learn how to go with it , keep your emotions , your state in the rage will be better , if your normal life will become nicer aswell , so that should be your goal right now .
Like I said though , from your description you dont seem to be the typical agressive guy , agressive guy , or the way I imagine him is a screaming guy , who has fear , but is brave , who has emotions of " Im gonna fucking kill you " , a person with passion who doesnt have control . You just look like you seem to loose your emotions sometimes .

But then again , you cant really solve this problem ... a little , you cant just be like ok Ill do this and that to avoid it . It can only be helped if you really spend lots of time on it and take it serious , but its not that serious for you to be taken that serious is it?

All I wrote is my opinion and Im not sure about it as Im not a psychologist or something , but the one thing Im sure about is that you should definitely seek some proffesional help , and try to be more wellbalanced .

Hope I help and sorry for the gramatical mistakes , as I always say english is not my first languge .

[TheHammer]

Originally Posted by svoss03

LOL.

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I don’t have any issue with suppressing my anger and don’t retaliate out of anger.

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So what's the problem then? Everything else you say, sounds like you know what you're doing in sparring. If you want to tee off on some guy just because you don't like him, then you do have a problem with your anger.

[svoss03]

Originally Posted by OwMyArm

I think you should become a superhero and use your super-rage to defeat villains.

I was born a super hero

[deckingdutchman]

In my experience, allow as much of your anger/hate/survival instinct (whatever u wanna call it) as you can control and focus when you spar.

In the cage it's good to go primal, unless you get to the point where you'll deck the ref when he tries to pull you off the other guy. That's not so good, lol.

[smileyman22336]

Just relax man.

[svoss03]

To clarify some things.

I control myself while sparring. This recent sparring event was nothing more than a reminder that I can loose control if I dont back off when I start getting hot headed.

Ive wondered lately if I am limiting my game by not learning to let my anger/aggression out while "keeping my head". Something I can not do at this time.

Life has thrown some tough shit my way and I learned to be tougher than the shit. As a recourse I learned somethings about what "evil" lies well hidden beneath the skin. I am not proud of it but I know it is there and honestly dont want to go there.