[svoss03]

Originally Posted by foofie

Seek proffesional help , go see a psychologist and a psychiatryst . Consult your life , and see what you might be doing wrong in it .

No offense , but its guys like you that are likely to go "pop" one day and do something they would never do consciously .

I would not say you are necessarily agressive , but you are rather - emotionless - in certain situations . For example , when you are drunk / stoned , do you do agressive stuff ? Do you throw your friends around or something ? I think its less likely , but then again I dont know you well and cant judge it . If you do agressive stuff when drunk , then its a problem with agressivity , but I dont think it is - you dont seem to be the "agressive" guy , are you often anxious ? Have problems in school ? Bad behaviour ? Unpatient ? Are you more one of those above , than most people ?

My opinion - avoid the snap , but eventually one day you will not be able to avoid it . You need to learn how to go with it , keep your emotions , your state in the rage will be better , if your normal life will become nicer aswell , so that should be your goal right now .
Like I said though , from your description you dont seem to be the typical agressive guy , agressive guy , or the way I imagine him is a screaming guy , who has fear , but is brave , who has emotions of " Im gonna fucking kill you " , a person with passion who doesnt have control . You just look like you seem to loose your emotions sometimes .

But then again , you cant really solve this problem ... a little , you cant just be like ok Ill do this and that to avoid it . It can only be helped if you really spend lots of time on it and take it serious , but its not that serious for you to be taken that serious is it?

All I wrote is my opinion and Im not sure about it as Im not a psychologist or something , but the one thing Im sure about is that you should definitely seek some proffesional help , and try to be more wellbalanced .

Hope I help and sorry for the gramatical mistakes , as I always say english is not my first languge .

I dont have any anger issues in life so to speak. I am not a sweet guy, but I dont get mad when I get drunk, I love my wife and kids and treat them well and I dont go looking for fights. All the crap that caused this issus has been out of my life for a long time.

And yes at times I am emotionless

[alown4ge]

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[Tapout257]

Man when sparring you need to use great self control.. I spar with guy that bench like 500lbs if he hits you out of control he will knock your head off...and sometimes you get hit hard and if you lose control you or someone else gets hurt and sparring should be a learninig exp.

[Biggiebrother]

I know what you mean about a snapping point. My most recent street fight, a cop pulled me off the guy. I have no idea what i would have done to the guy if the cop wasn't there. This prick started it all. TO me know , this is my survival killer instinct

But i haven't come anywhere near that in sparring or fighting in the ring

I am aggressive but in complete control

[ErikHS]

Originally Posted by OwMyArm

I think you should become a superhero and use your super-rage to defeat villains.

TS:



Seriously man, deal with your rage somewhere else than the gym. See a shrink and do some meditation, serenity now! 2 cents

[ErikHS]

Originally Posted by svoss03

To clarify some things.
Life has thrown some tough shit my way and I learned to be tougher than the shit. As a recourse I learned somethings about what "evil" lies well hidden beneath the skin. I am not proud of it but I know it is there and honestly dont want to go there.

Is life still throwing shit at you?

If its not, then your response pattern is obsolete and you need to develop new ones.

But maybe you hang on to your past cause you think thats who you are?

If your serious about changing yourself you can do so. Start reading up on NLP or listen to some audio.

And find someone to kick your ass in the gym

[PHD_in_8_Limbs]

Originally Posted by svoss03

Since I don’t think any one I know would even begin to understand where I am coming from I thought I was on my own... Until I realized this forum would be a good place to ask. Awesome epiphany.

My fight game is aggressive. I was at a time, well accustomed to fighting in the street, a few times in what I thought was life or death. I am older and wiser now but this instinct is still alive in me and I am trying to control/harness my inner aggression. Some of you may understand what I am saying others will have no idea, hell maybe I really am alone on this? Those who do know what I am talking about might recall a time or two where it did not matter if you lived or died, what injuries you may sustain or what condition you were in after the fact. What mattered was taking out the enemy because they were your enemy.

I feel like there is a point of no turning back, a switch that gets turned on that I do not have any control over. Not that my skills go out the window, but I almost feel like I loose my mind. It is a great feeling. No fear, no pain, no thoughts, just action. It is when I am at my best, doing what I was born to do. Zen.

The problem for me is bringing this into sparring. I honestly don’t want to admit it because to some it would seem conceited, but I am afraid to let go for fear of what I would do. I’ve seen the consequences of my thoughtless actions and have hurt people in ways much worse than physical pain. On the other side of the coin, there are times when I need to be able to respond, counter and strike like I would if I were in a street fight or cage match. I need to be able to be more aggressive with some of my training partners but I don’t do it because I think they will push back and push me to the point where I snap.

I don’t know, it’s like a love hate thing. If I like you I don’t want to hurt you, so I don’t want to go there. If I don’t like you, then fine, lets get it on and FUCK YOU if you die.

Should I go see a shrink, let loose on my training partners and let them be the ones to decide if they should push any further or is there an answer.

Is there a way to harness uninhibitedly that inner demon and then learn to control it effectively or should I just let it out? I really feel like just saying fuck you if you cant hang but I have learned a thing or 2 over the years.

The reason this comes up is because one of my training partners has a hard time controlling his anger and power. He has recently pissed me off by taking it too hard to a few new guys and almost pushed me to that “snapping point” last time we sparred. I am glad though, because without these recent events I would not be asking for advice right now.

Any body else as fucked up in the head?

No, I'm not fucked up. You just need a good old fashioned ass whooping to get that aggression in check. You are the type of individual that makes sparring a waste of time, and dangerous. You can control it, you just don't want to.

[alown4ge]

Originally Posted by svoss03

Life has thrown some tough shit my way and I learned to be tougher than the shit. As a recourse I learned somethings about what "evil" lies well hidden beneath the skin. I am not proud of it but I know it is there and honestly dont want to go there.

That's fine, everybody has that shit to varying degrees. The energy you're talking about is perfectly fine to use while fighting or sparring. But if you can't control it at all, then forget about it. Sparring and training are about becoming a better fighter, not just about letting out all of your boo-hoos and emotional refuse. But that stuff's not exactly against the rules, either.

There are limits to the human constitution, no matter how angry one gets. If you get hurt or hurt someone else during sparring, then you can't fight at 100% That doesn't do anything except get you or someone else even MORE pissed off. And remember this: If you're 100% caught up in your emotions and fight "blind," you're more than likely gonna be "blind," deaf, and dumb at the end, A.K.A. KTFO, by someone who is a little cooler under pressure.


Get some better, older sparring partners who aren't afraid of an angry kid. Getting rocked does WONDERS for overaggressive fighters, I can tell you this firsthand.

[svoss03]

Originally Posted by ErikHS

Is life still throwing shit at you?

If its not, then your response pattern is obsolete and you need to develop new ones.

But maybe you hang on to your past cause you think thats who you are?

If your serious about changing yourself you can do so. Start reading up on NLP or listen to some audio.

And find someone to kick your ass in the gym

NLP as in Neuro-linguistic programming?? Looks interesting.